vestigialthorn

joined 7 months ago
[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

I haven’t made new pieces yet, but I’ve had similar thoughts. I started with mending and altering current pieces, both masc and femme clothes, to fit my body better. That’s helped with learning differences between their construction.

I’d been out of doing that for a while but meaning to get back into it, now that I’m done with moving stress and seem to be at my new baseline fat distribution post being on progesterone.

If I find any resources in returning to that, I’ll try to post. Would love to see what others have come across.

Specifically, I would love to make/find boy shorts style underwear with just enough room to fit myself comfortably without being too bulgy. (I prefer to not tuck)

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Love how he is often able to push on the way autism is viewed.

I live my life mired in nuance. So much is in the realm of “not enough data to reach a conclusion” and so many people act as though it’s a matter of fact. And yet my thinking is considered wrong for not accepting extrapolations of incomplete data that feels unjustified by “this is how it works”.

Much like in this example: yes the DSM states black and white thinking is a problem for autistic people, while also being biased to not diagnosing people that lack this issue.

Feels ironic that the mental health field often gets hung up treating people as a member of category rather than individuals with room to be exceptional from the accepted mode of thinking for the category.

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

Friday the 13th Part VII: The New Blood. Been on a rewatch of the series. It’s not good, but it was fun. I think it may actually be the installment I watched most as a child because we had it on VHS.

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

Completely understand this. Have been here myself.

I personally struggled identifying with the trans label until I was on HRT for 3 months and realized that I couldn’t go back to how my brain worked without estrogen. And I fully support that medical transition is not necessary to be trans. So I know it’s not easy.

Trans doesn’t have to mean the “opposite” side of the binary.

I would suggest looking into resources breaking down the binary gender model, seeing if any experiences of folks in the myriad of non-binary identities resonates with you, and even considering if a label is all that important to you. To me, I don’t think should matter so much, and just use the term agender as the closest approximation.

There will be people that will try to gatekeep transness, but what matters is you’ve gone through the work of what you feel is your role in society vs what is the norm. You do that, and you will find plenty will accept it. Try things out, and if you learn that you’re cis, I think the experience of questioning gender will still make a huge positive change.

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

TLDR; the non-monogomous community has a generally lower tolerance for the toxic social norms common among cis-het men. A man that finds himself impatient with his success in dating might consider that it makes sense for non-men to be cautious of all men, and he might need to do the work to recognize he might be the one that needs to learn what others expect of him to be found attractive.

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Edit: I have since realized that I am unsure on the calculation of tax burden is calculated for the chart.

I am skeptical of the representation of the data. My sense for ways to skew data is set off when making statements of segments of population when the segments are not comparable.

I would need a better understanding of the calculation of the values reported to be able to justify that the top 20% are split into smaller groups than they’re being compared to.

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 5 points 7 months ago

Loved that show

 

I’m curious about some of the other positions and what people have taken away from volunteering at a burn.

Last year, I volunteered for Sanctuary, and I really appreciated the opportunity. It was a pleasure to hold space for folks, and I’m glad I was able to help ensure their comfort and wellbeing. NGL, I did well to have a low stimulation time away from the excitement of the rest of burn.

I’m hoping to do the same again as well as trying Perimeter and the cafeteria at Apogaea.

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 19 points 7 months ago (7 children)

tbh This one comes across as a bit shaming of nonconforming gender expression as the butt of the joke.

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

Baking Board games Camping Carving Drawing Gardening Guitar effects pedal construction/mod Guitar/Mandolin/Banjo Hiking Juggling Knitting Learning Miniature painting Origami Photography Programming (now career) Puzzles Reading Sculpting Sewing Weight training Woodwork Writing ...a bunch I can't remember

 

I just got passes for myself and a partner for this year’s Apogaea. I’m so excited. It will be my first time at this burn, and I’ve heard good things from folks I’ve met that’ve been before. Anyone else going?

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

Awesome. I’m glad you’ve been finding things to try out and stay comfortable with it.

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

That is awesome for you. I have loved reclaiming my masculinity since letting go of it. I feel like I’ve just had an everlasting emergence and metamorphosis rather than a singular hatching.

I wish there was a similar community here, but the vibes over at r/ftmfemininity are emaculate.

[–] vestigialthorn@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

I am enby but not a wiggler. A partner, a former partner, and a play partner of mine however — big-time wiggly enbies.

 

Since the About section specifically calls out folks that call BRC as home, what are the thoughts on regional burns?

I have only been to Alchemy and will be trying to make it to Apogaea this year. The much smaller size seems more intimate and in alignment with my personal style.

Folks interested in also discussing those here, or is there another federated community that fits better?

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