throwaway789

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[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 3 points 2 days ago

Awwww, are you doing okay?

 

He was more focused on what I could provide and do for him than having an actual, loving relationship that went both ways. I have enough worth and I surely don't deserve that. Played with me, strung me along, didn't want me yet still kept me around?? My friends all say that's messed up, I should listen to the advice and just ignore him like I'm doing. people are right. He is not my friend, I'm just his pet to keep around when it's convenient.

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 3 points 3 days ago

Thank you so much!! It sucks to know he doesn't want me in any way but he keeps me around, but my self-esteem is low so I don't say anything.

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Thanks. He says he doesn't want me in any way, so it's obvious he's just keeping me around anyway, I don't mean much to him.

 

My ex-boyfriend has been struggling with depression lately, and I want to be there for him as a friend, but he refuses to try to help himself, says I can't help, and thinks he's worthless and all.

I can tell him he's not, and comfort him, but I know he'll just not believe me and thank me for saying something nice to him. He's always depressed and I can't do anything to help and that makes me sad.

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 4 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Thanks so much, you too. I plan to move to Europe in the near future, IDK how long. But yeah, I was outright told that if I actually saw a professional, they would tell me I didn't have my conditions and that I was self-diagnosing and that it might just take a while for me to listen. I was actually diagnosed with everything by a professional, though.

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 4 points 4 days ago (4 children)

It's so messed up here in the U.S. where I live.

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 5 points 4 days ago

Thank you so much. Someone told me that what I went through is obviously faked and self-diagnosed.

 

Don't try to tell me what I go through isn't real.

Don't try to tell me I'm lying.

Don't try to tell me I'm "schizo" or whatever.

Don't tell me I don't really have a mental illness I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH.

You don't know me, how would you even know whether or not my experiences were real.

I'm currently in therapy with medical professionals, so I am indeed seeking help and working on myself, but to say I didn't go through it when you didn't know me is something else.

(I can't and probably won't say much as it's more of a general rant, plus you can DM for more info but only if you're not gonna be judgemental.)

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 2 points 6 days ago

Thank you, I get it

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I completely agree, no he doesn't do it later and I couldn't endure it apparently, because we broke up

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Thanks so much, he didn't even seem that upset when we broke up

 

I decided to just stay friends with him after everything: his mental health plus him not caring enough about what I like and saying stuff about how my interests sucked, wanting me to do stuff for him (buy/make gifts, watch his shows) but would never do that for me, etc. so now I’m a single Pringle boi!

 

I decided it would be better if we stayed friends, though I would still support and help him. Maybe if he starts liking my interests and becomes more mentally well, we could date again but for now IDK.

 

It makes me (18m) really sad when my bf (24m) is depressed. Sometimes he runs hot and cold and says he doesn't know if we should break up or not but then he says it feels right to be with me and he wants to stay.

Sometimes he doesn't like doing stuff for me even when I do stuff for him or doesn't like my interests much but wants me to like his. However, he can't do much of anything or talk right now because he's very depressed.

He's not like himself, and it's sort of making me feel depressed. How can I help without making myself extremely depressed too? I feel like I understand why he stopped doing certain stuff, and he says he can't show love for me like he could for his exes. He said it felt right to be my bf but that he didn't know if we should date.

 

Okay, so I found out that my boyfriend went from loving to indecisive and seemingly distant. I feel bad, though, because it turns out that while he says he wants me and he can handle a relationship, he's actually badly depressed to the point where he can't do much and can't talk to me much. He is always doing bad and extremely upset and low.

He says he can't say why he's upset, but that's okay

 

I hate this. So I (18FtM) have a BF (24M) and he has been showing me less affection and not really taking an interest in my things or what I want to do. He doesn't really like my interests but it's okay, we've been getting along. Sometimes, he doesn't even know if he wants to be with me, but it's okay.

Meanwhile, I just met this guy (19M) earlier today and we're really hitting it off, although we just met. I'm starting to like him and IDK what to do because I like my boyfriend too and probably like him more.

 

Yesterday, my boyfriend was very stressed and was going through a lot of family issues. I told him I couldn't stay for long. My family is strict and wanted me to go to bed and not be on my phone. My boyfriend then was asking where I was and why I was offline and not responding. He must not have seen my message but I had to go. And I feel so bad that he didn't read it and that I had to go, I feel like such an awful person for not being able to help. I know I suck, I know I just could've snuck it, but I just want someone to listen. Not criticism, please, like many people have said.

 

I made a throwaway so as not to clutter my main. I'm a bit sad but he doesn't want me to feel bad. He keeps me so he's not lonely, but he doesn't know whether or not he wants to break up and just strings me along, I guess. "I love you" one minute, "let's break up" the next. My mom says I'm being played, IDK.

I don't even know what we are because he keeps trying to walk out of the conversation and he doesn't care about my interests or what I want. I've tried talking to him, he says it's the way he is. Also, he gives me words of affirmation but apparently my brain says that's not enough. I don't know anymore. Just venting, ugh.

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