Kayday

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[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

That is unfortunate, but also Tuesday in parts of the US. I'll be on the lookout for a racially diverse, lgbtq+ friendly, left leaning country with socialized medicine and good educational systems, but I may need to compromise somewhere to escape in a timely manner.

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 5 points 17 hours ago

There are way more of us than there are of them.

I fear we are at the point where our numbers no longer matter. Protests will be met with violence from the state. The military will be used against political rivals. The populace will be given a mold and will be punished for breaking out of it.

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 3 points 22 hours ago (4 children)

I've been looking into options. Spain has my interest.

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 27 points 2 days ago

"Americans" did win their country back. We aren't welcome in it anymore.

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 20 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I literally just talked to a doctor about starting HRT yesterday, confident in a Harris win. I feel like such a fool. I haven't actually started, just talked about it. My wife and I agree that waiting at least until this time next year is wise, depending on how bad things get.

The shitty part is feeling like I'm betraying all my trans brothers and sisters out there who can't just put on cis-face, since there are medical records and public posts identifying them as not cis-normative, and I'm just going to hide. I don't want to put my family in danger, but I also can't stomach doing nothing as my people are also at risk.

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 24 points 4 days ago (1 children)

not all of you americans are piece of shit bigots

Australia's kindest affirmation.

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 76 points 6 days ago (1 children)

"The rule in question, known as Bredt's rule in textbooks, was reported in 1924. It states that molecules cannot have a carbon-carbon double bond at the ring junction of a bridged bicyclic molecule, also known as the "bridgehead" position. The double bond on these structures would have distorted, twisted geometrical shapes that deviate from the rigid geometry of alkenes taught in textbooks.
...A paper published by UCLA scientists in the journal Science has invalidated that idea. They show how to make several kinds of molecules that violate Bredt's rule, called anti-Bredt olefins, or ABOs, allowing chemists to find practical ways to make and use them in reactions."

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I would die happy if I could watch an animated adaptation of Worm from the Parahumans universe. Live action would be cool, but I think a series in the same vein as Invincible would work well and could represent the source material better.

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 63 points 1 week ago (1 children)

We're trying 😭

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I don't understand the concept of horror movies as entertainment

Maybe don't critique them then? I personally never 'got' horror as a genre either until the last year or so, but the feeling I get from a holocaust documentary is not comparable.

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

I guess the point is that if a charismatic person steps into the void, the machine already has momentum. Doesn't need to be one of those 3, necessarily. Hell, most people didn't know who JD Vance was before he was picked for VP, and he's slowly gaining support even though he had a rocky start with the charisma of a wet napkin.

 

So many years I convinced myself that I didn't have it bad enough to transition. I wasn't constantly depressed, only sometimes. Dysphoria didn't affect me daily, just weekly...

Never mind the fact that any time I embraced who I was it made me so happy, or that being seen by others the way I wanted felt more real than any other recognition I'd received before. No, I didn't suffer enough, so I didn't deserve to rock the boat with my happiness.

Folks, as cliche as it is, we aren't here forever. Life is too short to waste it lying to yourself and everyone around you.

 
 

Hello, title. I have been playing pf2e coming on 2 years now. Unfortunately, I have never enjoyed character creation or progression in this system. I like playing with my group, but would rather never again make a decision when it comes to character options.

I am surprised because it seems like there are very few written resources or videos which just make a build with feats/spells chosen, retraining recommendations by level, etc. Any recommendations?

 

[Requesting engagement from trans-feminine people on HRT]

I don't yet know when I will begin hormone replacement therapy, but the anticipation leaves me prone to developing expectations I worry are unrealistic.

Not sure how best to explain. My emotions, and sometimes my expression of those emotions, will feel masculine when heightened. Feeling intensely happy or angry about something even unrelated to my identity, those feelings give me dysphoria because of how masculine they seem. It's not that being happy or angry is inherently masculine, of course. The dysphoria comes from the emotion's manifestation seeming masculine.

I don't know if this makes sense, but has anyone experienced something similar and/or seen changes to these sorts of things?

 

Join me on the path to Twilightenment.

 

Back on February 3rd, I came out to my wife. TLDR, she is amazing and I love her.

We had just settled in with some cocoa for the night after getting the kiddo to sleep. We both knew yo get comfy, since we would be there a while. I told her very directly that I am a transgender woman, and shared some of how that has been exciting, terrifying, and depressing at times, still being in the closet.

There were some tears, which she later told me were on my behalf because she had no idea how I had been hurting. She has persistently reminded me through gestures and words that she loves me, not just as a man she married 6 years ago, but as the person she has come to know.

We are still in the process of talking through what next steps look like, but she has been incredibly open to change and has wanted to understand how I see myself and the world.

She has always been a huge Harry Potter fan. This woman even asked me if it was still okay for her to like Harry Potter. She was ready to leave it behind for me. (Personally, consuming HP media doesn't bother me. Conversation for another time, I'm sure some here would disagree with me)

I am so thankful for her. I also want to thank this community for encouraging me to get to this point. You girls rock ❤️

 

Link to my first post. When we were sharing our new year's resolutions with each other earlier this month, I told her I want to he more true to myself, and more honest with her. I told her she deserves that, and that I love her.

We have talked about having "a conversation" soon. For us, we understand this to mean at least 2-3 hours where we sit down intending to talk without being interrupted. Time has continued to get away from us as we are settling into being parents as well with a 2 month old.

We have each made mentions of, "the conversation", and how we haven't forgotten, just haven't had the right moment yet.

Girls, I am just so proud of myself for taking this step. Even though nothing has really happened yet, it feels like more has happened in the last month than in my entire life.

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Hey everyone, first time posting. Hoping there are others with similar experiences who can share insight, but at minimum I want to put my thoughts down.

I [29MtF] am pre-everything, but have accepted I am trans for the last 4 years with the understanding I would never transition. Continuing to live as a man in spite of myself seemed realistic. My dysphoria was never really that bad, so even though the idea of being a woman was amazing, I could always push it aside easily and continue with my life.

Sure, I would have bad days where dysphoria would get me down, thinking things like:

"Why can't I look like her? Why does it have to be such a big deal if I want to transition? Why would so many people hate me for being who I want to be?"

But as always, these times would come and go. I could grin and bear it, pressing on to another day.

My wife of 6 years is fantastic. I love her more than the day we were married, and we have a child on the way. In the past, I have been open with her about my general preference towards femininity. While she accepts this and loves me for it, I have never properly told her I think of myself as transgender. She and I both come from a background where being trans is considered wrong, and I know she still thinks that even though we are both supporting and accepting of our LGBTQ+ friends.

In the last year, one of my closest childhood friends told me he was gay. He and I regularly get drinks together, and mostly tell each other everything. When he came out to me, I told him I was trans. We have both been able to support each other, mostly as confidants while he deals with backlash from his family. I wish I could tell my wife as easily as I told my friend, but obviously that has more potential consequences.

The more time passes with me accepting who I am inside, the more natural it becomes to think of myself that way. This unfortunately has made dysphoria a more frequent and intense experience.

Additionally, there have been a handful of incredibly euphoric experiences I have had in the last year. My wife and I cosplayed a lesbian couple at a con this summer, which was the first time I dressed femme in public. Also, with my wife's pregnancy, I have been wearing some of her maternity clothes (shorts, sweatpants) around the house since those fit me surprisingly well. (Also justice for all of my hoodies she has claimed over the years)

I know for certain that transitioning would sever ties with almost all of my family and friends. Further, my wife would have a difficult time deciding what our future together would look like, assuming it continued at all. Despite her open mindedness, our shared religious beliefs would ultimately inform the outcome.

I wish it wasn't so hard to keep pretending. I'm just so tired.

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