Ilovemyirishtemper

joined 1 year ago

Yeah, I live near a state park named "Bong." To be fair, it was named after a person. There is also a Wang Town in Minnesota.

I've never seen a truer post.

[–] Ilovemyirishtemper@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What are bakery gloves? I've never heard of that before, and Google was not helpful.

I used to think the cause of this was something about how you were raised or how repugnant any discussion of bodily fluids or medical stuff was in your childhood. Some of my friends can't handle talking about any medical procedure at all, which I always thought was odd, but I chalked it up to childhood experiences. I've since learned that child rearing is not the cause, although I'm sure it has some influence.

My mom was a nurse, and we talked about all sorts of bodily fluids, medical issues, and, frankly, gross stuff while growing up. I developed a full tolerance for it. Similar to you, it just felt like a step on the way to treatment and healing. It does not bother me at all to see it or hear a discussion about it at the dinner table, no matter how gross. But, my brother, who was raised in the exact same circumstances, passes out when he gets stuck with a needle. Every. Time. I know that the response to needles and blood aren't the same as medical procedures, but my point is that people react differently no matter their upbringing.

Clearly, some people are just made to react that way in emergencies. This is not throwing even a drop of shade at people who have to experience that queasiness, but I'm very grateful that I'm not one of those people. We just react differently.

Also, I 1000% respect people who work in emergency services. I don't know if you still do it, but you guys have to deal with a lot of horrific injuries and people at the worst moments of their life. You're absolutely essential, and I don't think you get the recognition you deserve. <3

[–] Ilovemyirishtemper@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Not sure if you're being sarcastic or not, but I'm being fully honest in my question. I kept up with what was being said, but I'm 99% sure that I'm missing the joke. I know it's a faux pas, but can you explain the punchline to me?

I'm guessing it has something to do with the ruling class being shittier than the average person, but I feel like I'm missing something.

Ditto. Then, when we went back to "normal," I felt like I had to pretend to hate it because everyone else hated it so much. For me, it felt like freedom and relief.

I agree. They are better looking than they are tasting.

One of the biggest things I learned when I started working in the legal field is that the only justice you'll get is the justice you can prove. Things like this might be true, but if you can't prove it, you'll get no justice for it.

Is that fair? No. But the system we created is based on the assumption that people are going to be wrongfully imprisoned or charged for actions that they didn't commit simply because the government wants them imprisoned. We designed it that way because that used to happen often in other countries, and we didn't want that to happen here. So, we created rules to avoid wrongful imprisonment by the government without finding a way to also protect victims who may not have enough evidence to prove their victimization.

I'm not saying that what this woman is asserting happened or didn't happen. I have no idea what went down. I also don't know how we fix the system. People are wrongfully imprisoned, victims don't receive justice, etc., but this is how the system is designed, so whether or not it's true, she is required to demonstrate it, or she will receive no justice.

Okay, I normally try not to be this guy, but in this particular situation, I believe a little pedantry is called for. You mean that you couldn't care less. If you could care less, that means you do care at least a little bit, which is not the point you're trying to make.

[–] Ilovemyirishtemper@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Ditto. I feel like I'm the only one who still listens to the radio in my car. The only thing I want my car to have that it doesn't is cruise control. Otherwise, she's perfect.

[–] Ilovemyirishtemper@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I won't lie; I cried a little when I read your comment. It's really validating and rare to truly be seen. I do tread very carefully to be appropriate, fair, and reasonable in my responses, but I never really expected anyone to see that. I appreciate your comment more than I know how to say.

This is a tough topic because, like you said, it affects literally everyone, no matter their gender, and everyone has different experiences and opinions. I just want everyone who is forming an opinion to see as many different sides and experiences as possible to, at the very least, make an informed decision on the state of gender politics. I know that everyone has their personal biases, and no one wants to give up privileges or power, but at the end of the day, again, like you said, the patriarchy hurts all of us.

I appreciate you. <3

[–] Ilovemyirishtemper@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

Yes! This is the exact approach a good teacher takes with students who struggle with behavioral norms. There is a reason they are doing what they're doing. They are reacting to adults the way they have been trained to react by other, shittier adults.

Once they trust you as a person who actually cares, they seem to become a whole new person. They are no longer scared to be vulnerable in front of you. It's a sacred level of respect that teachers and/or mentor adults need to take very seriously.

I used to be the person who specializes in working with students who struggle with behavioral problems, and I can 100% assure you that exposure to violence from or among adults they are around is what led them to my classrom.

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