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you must find the third wolf, who turns the thermostat down at night and sleeps comfortably under several warm blankets
It's by design. Almost all blankets have polyester or some synthetics. It's basically like sleeping under plastic bottles. Excellent for heat retention. Absolutely shit for heat regulation.
Pure cotton is better, but not as ideal as wool. Your life will change under a wool blanket. Wool blankets are insanely expensive, but you can find utility wool blankets for pretty cheap (very scratchy), you just have to sandwich them between some thin layers so you don't feel the scratchiness. You can layer them multiple times and it is very difficult to have too many as they breathe very well.
Wool filled comforters with a cotton shell is the answer to this. $100-$200. So comfy. Machine washable. 100% breathable, sweat wicking, heavy and comforting.
so basically, blame capitalism?
I am a very peculiar sleeper. It needs to be fairly cold (63ยฐF is ideal), with a fan blowing directly on me for cooling and noise, with a chunky weighted blanket on top of a linen sheet that allows the fan air through, one pillow between my knees and a king length pillow on both sides, then my head is sandwiched between two more pillows, with an eye mask on and noise canceling headphones to make the fan sound far away.
But I sleep like a baby under these conditions as long as I've taken my melatonin.
Jesus Christ on a bike either you're single or your partner must love you to death
Fortunately it's the latter. I'm a lucky man in that regard. But he did have a lot of trouble adjusting when we started dating.
We disagree on our bed firmness. I had to buy a custom sized mattress topper that covers his half of the bed and is firm and cut the soft one I had in half to cover my side.
That's marriage material. I wish you two a long and happy life with a lot of good sleep.
Wow that's a very detailed and specific setup. How long did it take you to figure out?
I'm 41 and figured this fully out maybe 3 years ago...
I had terrible insomnia when I was a kid, so sleep had always been something I was chasing. I also forgot to mention that I need a king sized bed, California King is preferred, but I'm 6'4" so that is more a factor of fit than comfort.
I'm the same height and have a queen. Maybe time for me to upgrade
California King is the best for my height, but I would recommend just a King as it's harder to find sheets and bed frames in the California King sizing.
But yeah going up from queen was a great thing for my ability to fit in a bed!
This is freakishly familiar. Only missing trazodone and doxylamine.
Well I do miss trazodone, but it stopped working for me when I was taking it regularly. Never tried doxylamine, but for a while I was on mirtazapine and diphenhydramine for the sleep side effects only.
But I weened myself off them after reading they can cause dementia if taken for a prolonged period. A decade doesn't count as prolonged, does it? Eh, I'll be fine I'm sure.
i hate to break it to you, i think its the melatonin thats making you sleep like a baby.
I wish!
Taking away one or more part of the puzzle makes it harder to sleep. Some are more important than others, like the pillow setup and the coldness.
insomnia goes crazy huh?
Yeah. I'm envious of the type of people who can sleep in random circumstances.
I'm basically a dude version of the princess from The Princess and the Pea. But it's because I'm horribly broken when it comes to sleep, not spoiled royalty.
lol, that's quite the apt comparison. I've struggled with sleep myself, though i would hesitate to call it insomnia tbh. It's fine as long as my body can self regulate it. But the second it becomes an artificial schedule, all hell breaks loose and i start getting like 5 hours of sleep a day, plus weird napping routines which only make it worse.
I had this problem for a long time.
Raising the temperature of the room to 19 fixed this, because then when it's warm my body naturally throws a leg out or removes some blanket, which it refuses to do when the room is too cold. As much as I like sleeping in the cold with a big blanket, now i can sleep and not wake up in a wet bed.
I spend half the year adjusting to how hot it is at night and the other how cold it is. One day I'll figure out this sleep thing.
Snuggle up with the blanket against your chest, leave back and legs uncovered.
That's how the monsters get you.
I do that!
This is just my wife and I.
He needs more blankets and he needs less blankets!!
HE NEEDS ALL OF THE NONES, STAT!