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Image: Two images almost identical to each other stacked vertically. The top one is the back of a neck of a person wearing a sweater with the tag sticking out. It is captioned "What it looks like". The bottom image is the exact same image but the sweater's tag has been replaced with a cactus. It is captioned "What it feels like".
This isn't autism, this is universal.
Like 80% of these autism/ADHD subs
The problem with tags is often amplified with Autism and a lot of neurotypicals do not struggle with this whatsoever, I don't know anyone who does.
I'd prefer more specific posts, but this post is fine.
I recall a post about resting your foot on its side while sitting in a chair meaning you're autistic.
I still don't know if that one was facetious or not.
Is Autism the new depression? People saying they totally have it when they are undiagnosed and mostly experiencing the same things as everyone else?
At least in America, adult-diagnosed autism is something that seems to have been largely ignored until the past few years, and only recently have MH professionals started getting better at diagnosing girls and women, and adults in general. When my therapist suggested I see a specialist for diagnostic testing, we had the hardest time finding a psychiatrist in my area with any autism experience who wasn't focused on child psychiatry, and the first one wanted $500 out of pocket before even seeing me, as they didn't accept insurance. I don't know if that's standard, but if it is, I can see many people just not following up due to cost restrictions.
Couple that with the fact that DSM-5 and ICD-10 abandoned Asperger's terminology and favor ASD as a much broader and inclusive term, and it shouldn't be surprising that many more people today are saying they have it, diagnosed or not.
What is surprising to me is how much pushback I've seen in both ND and NT people who never seemed to push back at Asperger's diagnoses in the past. I've heard many neurotypical people from comedians to "influencers" claim autism is just something people say they have without diagnosis because it's trendy or an excuse for "bad behavior." In my experience about half of my NT friends and family members just flat out said, "no you're not," when I confided my diagnosis, while the other half say they suspected it or are just supportive in general.
What's worse imo is when the gatekeeping comes from within the ND community, almost like a disdain for people who have been masking well enough to get by while just being considered "eccentric" or "kind of weird." If someone else says they struggle with some of the same issues as me without having been professionally diagnosed, I should be trying to meet them on that shared experience so we can understand each other better and can live more harmoniously, not ridiculing or judging them. And that exclusiveness/dismissiveness is rampant in these subs, even in this thread for instance. We shouldn't minimize or reject the experiences of other people when they are just trying to offer connection. To even be offered that opportunity to connect takes an effort in trust, and should be encouraged.
Not even close to true, most people I know don't remove tags
There’s a huge difference between a tag bothering you throughout the day, and a tag completely destroying your ability to function.
I hate it when I cut the tag out but there's still tag material caught in the seam that I can't remove without undoing the seam. Arrggghh!
I cut it super close with a scalpel blade. So close in fact, that it might tear the seam. It's exhilarating, which is how I know I've grown old.
I seriously wont buy a shirt if I can't rip the tag out so that there is nothing of it left while not damaging the shirt. I really wont.
Depends on the wool
Everyone should follow what Decathlon does, ie stitch the tag to a small piece of fabric, and then stitch the fabric to the garment. This way you can cut the tag away with a bit of fabric and the remaining fabric won't bother you.
I get in there with tweezers
Thats why tag less is so popular. Thankfully tags nowadays are nowhere as bad as it used. it was horrible. I felt like cutting the tag back then only made it worse. Just a sharp jagged spike on my neck all day.
The advent of printing the tag onto the fabric of the shirt was literally life-changing for me, and I guess for at least a few of you guys too!
I was ready to respond that I'm autistic and don't have this issue at all, but you made me realize none of my shirts even have tags and I'm just a dumbass.
At least a tag I can fix.... A woollen jumper (aka woolen sweater for the US folks) is just a no-go. Too itchy.
Or those shirts with print on them that is thick like a paste. Hell no! I am not wearing that.
I was 30+ when my g/f showed me that it's totally okay to just cut them off. It still feels wrong, though.
Cutting them off isn't good enough for me and sometimes even makes it worse because the corners are now more rigid and prickly. If I can't tear the tag completely off, I am not buy the shirt.
But then how do you know if your shirt should be washed in warm or cold water!?
I wash all clothes on cold.
I rip them out even if it damages the shirt a little bit.. (if it can’t be done without completely destroying it I just won’t buy it to begin with)
No idea who thinks it’s perfectly fine to add itchy scratchy annoying tags right where they’re most annoying!
Doesn't everyone remove the tags?
Sometimes I'm certain a tag or seam has rubbed my skin open to the point of bleeding bc it's just that painful and irritated, then I check the skin and it usually isn't even reddened and that makes me a teensy bit angry
Not just the tags, also the seams. For some reason manufacturers tend to make the outside of clothes more comfortable to wear than the inside. The many tiny micro-cuts clothes produce are extra uncomfortable with allergies.
Just wear shirts inside out. Much nicer on the skin. Doesn't work well for clothes with zippers or pockets but usually those are reserved for outer layers anyway.