TransLater

Hi all. Thorn here - (they/any). I just turned 41 a couple weeks ago.

These days I’m spending most of my time preparing to move (GTFO of Georgia). But my mental cycles revolve around creating federated community services, so surprisingly only just now getting into the fediverse.

I think I’ve been navigating transition in the suburbs of the Bible Belt relatively well. Hardest thing for me might be that most other gender diverse folks I locally come across my age or older are still very binary in their thinking of gender. So we have difficulty relating to each other. But younger folks have welcomed me plenty.

For questions, are there places in the fediverse I should definitely be finding my way to?

Hi, I'm (provisionally - I haven't really decided yet) Pip from the UK, mid-30s. I had my "egg crack" moment a few years ago right at the start of the pandemic and I've been waiting for an appointment with a UK gender service for 4 years until I finally got my first appointment the other week.

I've been in self denial this whole time, tried to ignore things, push it all to the back and it is clear that isn't a healthy approach, it isn't something that will "go away" by itself.

I have a second appointment coming up in a few weeks where I will potentially get an actual diagnosis of dysphoria or incongruence and finally get some help. However the first appointment made it really clear I have an awful long way to go with self acceptance.

I've tried joining a few trans communities but, and this isn't meant to be an insult to anyone - I'm happy they are comfortable in expressing themselves, I find it really hard to relate to all the uwu, catgirl, eepy stuff to the point where it makes me feel uncomfortable. Not in a judgemental way, it is clearly related to my own lack of self-acceptance and my self hatred but at times it makes me feel like it isn't serious, other times it makes me feel like an outsider and makes me question myself even more.

I'm really looking for a group to have a slightly more mature discussion with, as fun as the memes and the "femcel" stuff is I just want to feel and speak in a way I'm more accustomed to.

Hey, I'm 42. Over the years I've thought many things about myself: that I'm trans, born in the wrong body, but that this is just a kink and that I can cope with it via crossdressing, that this is just a phase that goes away... well, I am sure you know that by now, that I was wrong. This feeling does not go away, and I'm contemplating how to face the dilemma to coming out of the closet.

I've found that I've internalized a lot of homophobia through the society I'm living in, through my upbringing and through my childhood traumas. Recently I've started finding ways to accept myself, and strangely to me lately, "sissy hypnos" (not the clearly porn one, but the affirmating ones) really helped. I'm still in the beginning of this process, and lately I care much less about labels, and look forward more to what kind of life I want to live. Any help or insight with that is appreciated.

I also cheer for anybody who can bravely come out and say that they are trans woman. I hope that I reach that stage one day.

hi, im bbee (she/it/they) i didn't transition super late in life, at age 24. i now feel age 30 quickly approaching so i feel like this is a valuable space for me to participate in 😊 regardless of my age, this feels like a positive place and i want as much trans joy on my front page as possible! i'm excited to hear from all the interesting and beautiful people who end up here <3

Hi, Im Rose. I live in america, one of the good states at least

Please do not ask my age, it is a sensitive subject thanks to trauma.

I am a self taught furry artist and author, but I also play games and watch youtube sometimes.

I am closeted irl out of anxiety and hate my severe dysphoria

Have you stayed hydrated and praised our patron deity Blåhaj yet?

Hi everybody! I'm Valerie, (I did a whole intro over on Transfem if you want to check that out), I'm 41, be 42 in a few months, I'm in the U.S. originally from one of the not great states. I live in Colorado now though, actually about to move cities here at the end of the month for a new job. And, I'm pretty reserved at first, I like to take in a situation and people through observation quietly when you first meet me. However, once I get to know folks, I am usually joyful and VERY talkative. (As will become obvious if you know me, I'm prone to being long winded. It's a problem. I've had to learn through great personal difficulty how and when to be concise.)

I'm a teacher so obviously I love working with students, seeing them grow and learn and just be their amazing selves! In my free time, I love to read so, I do a lot of that. I just finished Andy Weir's Hail Mary, before that The Book Thief, Ursula K. Le Guin's The Dispossessed, The Word for World is Forest, The Left Hand of Darkness, Lisa Klein's Ophelia, The Priory of the Orange Tree, Hood Feminism, and I could keep going but you probably get the idea. I also really enjoy video games, please don't judge, and I have a Steam Deck, since GOG had a deal I bought the Yakuza series and have started my way through Yakuza 0, looking forward to playing through them all.

I feel like I'm navigating much better now. I left a prior teaching job the summer before my 40th birthday, knowing that they would not be comfortable with me transitioning, and tutored for about a year before the leadership their realized I was trans and dismissed me (though naturally that wasn't the reason given.) I had really struggled this last year to find a new job and went through my savings, finally my parents had to help me out BUT, I got a new teaching position with an awesome and inclusive school, which I start at the end of this month. I'm very excited about pursuing this new opportunity in a new town where people will only ever know the real me, you know? 😁 It's a lot so, ask me again next year and I may finally feel like I've gotten everything together. 😜

As for a question, hmm, well, I guess I'd like to know about other folks relationships, if they're in one or not and if their partner(s) knew/met them before transition and how navigating those personal relationships have been, what challenges you all faced if any. Now, I get off light here since I'm single and have been for a quite awhile. (I knew I was trans long before I actually transitioned, even if I didn't have the vocab for it early on.) I just didn't think it was fair to a potential partner (or myself for that matter) to start seeing anyone while I was maintaining a false outward presentation and I've got so much else going on since starting transition, including transition itself that I'm just not in a place for a relationship yet. So, I think that wraps it all up. I've really loved hearing from folks on the fediverse already and I'm looking forward to talking with all you beautiful folks here on TransLater as well! 🥰

• Tell us your name and where are you from? My name is Ada, I'm 47 and from Brisbane/Meanjin Australia
• What do you enjoy spending your time on? These days, I am spending lots of time on the fediverse. As a member and an admin. Trying to get more in to boardgames too
• How have things been going as you navigate the combination of “Trans” and “Later” in your life? Pretty good. I am 6 years in to transition now, and I feel like I was just trying to find the new "normal" in my life when covid came along and changed the definition of normal. So I think now, I might finally be ready to try and find it again :)
• What’s a question you have for other folk in the sub? I'm going to cheat and say this was that question for me :P

Hello everyone!

My name is Kate and I'm from New Zealand. I'm 46yo and pre everything. Still coming to terms with myself and in the process of coming out to friends. I don't hate being a guy, but get so much gender euphoria being a woman.

I enjoy socialising & having a few drinks, doing bjj and mountain biking. Gotta do something to keep fit.

Things have gone way better than I expected. My wife and I have recently separated because of this, but she is very supportive anyway. Everyone that her and I have told, have been completely supportive and also the local trans community have been amazing. The "Later" part is odd I guess. I spent 44 years as a guy, so I wonder sometimes if I am trans or just curious. Like I feel I should have known years ago, so am I kidding myself. But then I play a scenario in my head - if my Dr told me I was a crossdresser and not transgender, how would I feel? And I found I would feel sad and disappointed I wasn't a woman. Self doubt, argh.

I guess my question is: What is it about being a woman do you love the most?