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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.

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The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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Anyone else just... never go through the legal name change process? Its been like 7 years since I came out and I still haven't bothered with it. (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago by LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Its hard to justify the cost mostly. It's also mildly amusing watching people stumble a bit if I have to show my ID for something. But getting called my deadname at the bank is starting to get tiresome 🙃

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[–] feminalpanda@lemmings.world 1 points 8 months ago

I need to do my birth certificate before Missouri makes it illegal.

[–] roseh@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's a lot of work, but having a matching ID is very convenient. And if someone asks for my deadname, I can tell them "I don't know anyone by that name"

[–] LetsGoAshe@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

Scam callers with data from years ago too call and I'm like, nope, sorry, wrong person. Not to mention Voice Training makes them realise wrong gender too. 😅

[–] LassCalibur@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yep! It's been five years so far of hrt for me and I still haven't legally changed my name. Most likely that's due to having felt like names were all fake for so much of my life. Yet why was I so jealous of my friend who just picked her own new name in grade school and got away with it? My state in the us still requires running a newspaper ad for a while which isn't something I'm looking forward to and the state I was born in requires gcs to change birth certificates. There's a fair possibility that I'm intersex as well though which would allow me to have my birth certificate changed to reflect that with only a test of some sort. I'm definitely going to get it all done before the end of the next presidential election here since who knows what horrors might happen if the republicans won in this climate.

[–] Lux@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What's the newspaper ad for? Is it publicly announcing that your trans or something?

[–] LassCalibur@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That sums it right up I think but supposedly its for the worlds creditors who all read your local newspaper to watch for us changing our names just to get away from debts.

[–] feminalpanda@lemmings.world 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I got mine waived as my mom already stalked my sister around town and posted about militant lesbians when she started dating women.

I think you can extend that to alt right terrorists.