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Porn sites Pornhub, XVideos, and Stripchat face stricter requirements to verify the ages of their users after being officially designated as “Very Large Online Platforms” (VLOPs) under the European Union’s Digital Services Act (DSA).

I personally have mixed feelings, as the information collection could be used to link individuals and profile them. Possibly leading to discrimination if abused.

But I also feel that any random kid shouldn't be able to just go to these sites and see porn freely.
Ofc, there's always going to be those who mange to circumvent any protection put in place but it'd be much harder then just clicking a link or typing in the address.

I also feel that parents should actively monitor their kids online activities and step up a Blocklist to pro-actively prevent kids from reaching these sites to begin with.

What are your thoughts on this?

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[–] BrikoX@lemmy.zip 99 points 10 months ago (1 children)

But I also feel that any random kid shouldn’t be able to just go to these sites and see porn freely.

So they will just go to another site that doesn't have age verification and doesn't implement any security measures instead. Big sites are required to age check people before they are allowed to upload anything, that is not the case for most of the internet.

All age verification does is aggregate personal information and make it easy target for bad actors to steal. Instead of needing to go thought 100 sites, now that information & identities will be tied to a single database.

It's also a slippery slope, since the same adult content is available not just on dedicated adult sites, but mainstream social media. Lemmy, Mastodon, Twitter, TikTok, Twitch (just recently wanted to allow nudity). Do you really want to have your identity tied to your online activity?

[–] curiousaur@reddthat.com 49 points 10 months ago (4 children)

Governments should not be taking on parental duties.

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 7 points 10 months ago

+1 here, friend. Spread the word.

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[–] HMH@lemmy.ml 69 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

The good old "Think of the children" argument again... This is an attack on online privacy, again. I hate it.

It is the parents responsibility to keep their kids safe. We don't ban knives either just because a child could accidentally get hurt by one. And apart from that the regulations are not even well thought out, they will not stop a determined teenager with a lot of time on their hands.

[–] Facebones@reddthat.com 22 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Funny how the venn diagram of "it's the govts job to protect my kids at all costs" and "the govt shouldn't come near my children with a 10 foot pole because they're brainwashers" is a perfect circle.

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 8 points 10 months ago

👍 Yep, it's sad. I can protect them along with the help of my family, friends and community. If not, I will admit failure and live with the consequences. But it's up to me to grow up and build skills and learn patience and responsibility, not the job of others.

Parents need to get back to parenting instead of absolving themselves of what they see as a pesky responsibility of raising the children they produce and putting their lives and impressionable minds in the hands of others, then wondering what went wrong 20-some years on and blaming everyone but themselves.

[–] eager_eagle@lemmy.world 59 points 10 months ago (1 children)

In the worst case a privacy nightmare, and in the best case useless.

[–] RGB3x3@lemmy.world 32 points 10 months ago (1 children)

"Please enter your age:"

Me, 15 years old: "Yes, I was born in 1973."

[–] eager_eagle@lemmy.world 18 points 10 months ago (1 children)

"use this rotary phone to enter your year of birth"

[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 10 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

That would probably actually be a decent age verification scheme

[–] wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] jasondj@ttrpg.network 7 points 10 months ago

Nah there’s no kids on TikTok smart enough to figure it out and tell all the rest.

[–] Mango@lemmy.world 36 points 10 months ago

I don't want any company putting my identity into a database along with my sexual interests. Just consider what's been done to the gay++ community.

[–] golden_zealot@lemmy.ml 33 points 10 months ago

It won't work. Ever. VPN's free and paid exist, File sharing exists, Torrents exist, AI pornography generators exist, freenet, tor, I2P all exist. There is no action a government could take that would have any true impact in this regard unless they made the use of the internet illegal, and even at that, it would create a black market in which such things could still be purchased as physical media.

All this does is allow government entities to infringe on privacy rights further by doing what they have always done - hiding behind children.

[–] Kir@feddit.it 29 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I think we should stop, as a society, to try (and fail) to handle problems by imposing limits and obligation and start doing it with some fuckin large-scale massive education planning.

In this context: a smart boy/girl, with sexual/emotional education and good critical thinking can have access to all the porn in the world from teenage and be fine 99% of the time

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Prohibition leads to black and grey markets, where what is produced and consumed is frequently even more corrupted and dangerous/risky in its acquisition and delivery than whatever you think of the corollaries in the lit markets. It may also drive more deviant and destructive behavior where they may hide their actions and produce more shame and be labeled criminals.

My only divergence would be that the education planning starts at each individual family level rather than large-scale massive education buracracy, which is what we have now and is failing badly to produce good results.

Maybe once that first order family circle is built strongly, you can begin to expand the circle of influence to extended family, neighbors, friends and community.

[–] Kir@feddit.it 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I disagree. Family education is very important, but it's not something you can rely on. Just to point out some major problem:

  • you leave behind everyone that have a problematic family
  • even the most intelligent and benevolent parents will be just limited to their core value and experience, and education needs more
  • education is a very complex process that needs professionals, especially considering a rapidly evolving context like today. You can't ask a parent to be ALSO a professional educator. You need skills, training, experience.
[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I am fine with you disagreeing and forging your own path. I mean that sincerely. I would like to follow mine. We can each see how it works out.

Just please don't force me to support your approach, financially or otherwise, by using the state/gov or others as a proxy for your personal wishes, and I will agree to the same, as I already do.

Edit: Also, do not use those same levers of power to form a cartel that excludes my family, or those who choose to do it this way from participating in public life. We can all get along with tolerance and respect, despite our differences.

Upvote for the civil discourse and laying out your reasoning.

[–] Kir@feddit.it 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

We are just discussing here. Why are you assuming I'm trying to force something into you or your family? How would I do it?

I'm sorry, I think I'm missing the point of your answer. It's a social and we're just discussing opinions, nobody can decide anything about anything.

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[–] Valmond@lemmy.mindoki.com 5 points 10 months ago

And if they aren't smart enough, they'll get a shit ton super sexualised stuff from the day they see a screen anyways.

It's just a power game, or the old "vote for me, those things are evil". I say that as no one seems to blend in sex ed. Like at all.

[–] ShortN0te@lemmy.ml 28 points 10 months ago (9 children)

Electronic ids can provide the age verification without giving out any personal information. This is a solved problem at least for a lot of ids in the EU.

But no i still find it a stupid idea. It is the parents job to parent them.

[–] harry_balzac@lemmy.world 19 points 10 months ago

Exactly - it's the parents' responsibility.

Imagine any government telling car manufacturers that they have to verify that everyone who starts their vehicles has a valid drivers license.

[–] digdilem@lemmy.ml 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I suspect you haven't worked with governments before.

Just because something is technically possible, it's no guarantee that it will be the chosen mechanism for something. More likely the contract will be awarded to either the lowest possible bidder, or to a friend of a friend. Cronyism is depressingly common at all levels.

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[–] sir_reginald@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago (2 children)

isn't the id unique? which means that sites can trace every visit you make and what videos you watch every time?

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[–] turkalino@lemmy.yachts 23 points 10 months ago (5 children)

Might be a stupid question but is there any peer reviewed research that shows that porn is harmful to minors? Early humans didn't have clothes so minors were seeing nudity for centuries. Of course, there's the issue that porn gives men unrealistic expectations about women & sex, but that's an issue regardless of age.

[–] Kir@feddit.it 17 points 10 months ago

Your question is not stupid, but comparing porn to casual nudity is.

[–] CaptainSpaceman@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Probably not, its just religious pearl clutching for the most part that has been passed down unnecessarily

Free the bodies, let everyone be naked and we will all stop giving a shit

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[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 22 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Let's be real, teens, especially males, will actively search for porn. Blocklists can be pointless, because even if you can blacklist 160k pornhub clones, they can just join a discord or telegram server instead.

Frankly, I think parents should just make them aware that just like cinema, those videos are for show, not for "trying at home". Parents should tell them that if they ever expect sex to be like in the porn they consume, they'll be sorely disappointed. Most of it is faker than reality tv. Oh, it can also make boys get really fucking insecure, especially about their own size.

[–] Microw@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

That's not a problem in my opinion. Obviously teens are a big demographic for big sites like pornhub. And they will consume porn in one way or another. I would love it if they used more ethical porn platforms, but whatever it is it is.

The issue with these sites has always been that they will blast videos into your face as soon as you open the website, without the usual barrier to register first. And that makes it a problem for any child between 5 and 11 years old who might stumble onto that page because someone is pulling a prank or whatever. The un-natural, violent kind of porn promoted by sites like Pornhub should not be broadcasted into the minds of actually small children.

[–] mindbleach@sh.itjust.works 17 points 10 months ago (2 children)

But I also feel that any random kid shouldn’t be able to just go to these sites and see porn freely.

At some point, you have to ask - why?

If that's the alternative to spying on everyone, I'm still opposed to spying on everyone. Unsupervised internet access leading kids to pornography certainly would not be new. It's not the end of the world.

Just throw your warnings and have a click-through. It'll be just as effective, much cheaper, and not leave bastard politicians salivating about their social control fetish.

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 6 points 10 months ago

Raise thoughtful, moral children. They are going to see porn in our modern society. How they process it has to do a lot with the tools they have to do that. That's the parents job. Not to pretend a 100% prohibition or firewall can be erected, but to raise resilient children who can thrive and not become irreparably damaged by the things they are exposed to in the world they grow into.

Recognition that they will come into contact with it also does not mean you have to endorse it or present them with it. It's not a binary thing. Choose how you want to parent and observe the results of different approaches. YMMV.

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[–] pipariturbiini@sopuli.xyz 16 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Kids are smart. Horny teenagers even more so. They will find loopholes or ways to circumvent these kind of things - speaking from experience. At age 13 I installed a keylogger on my PC to get the password for a parental control software my parents installed. Roughly one year later I also exploited a vulnerability in iOS 4 that allowed me to see the parental controls password in plaintext so I could re-enable Safari.

[–] Steamymoomilk@sh.itjust.works 6 points 10 months ago

Mr.hacker man? Lol Yeah adding restrictions is like the alchol prohibition in the US. Restricing it is going to make it more prevlent and easily acessible. There may be more sites that pop up that boot leg it. Kinda like schools with cool math games being blocked so you have unblocked games websites.

[–] rbesfe@lemmy.ca 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

My first exposure to porn was through sprays in TF2. Kids are gonna see this shit regardless of how much you invade everyone else's privacy

[–] brygphilomena@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

I'm getting flashbacks to Counter Strike. It's been a long time since I've thought of sprays in games.

[–] Anonymouse@lemmy.world 14 points 10 months ago

Is it the responibility of any government to enforce a parental policy? What if I, as a parent, support my kid to view this stuff?

At home, I was allowed to have alcohol with supper at family meals from about 13.

I feel like the regulations should be to give parents control over their child's activities if they so choose. While we're at it, make it illegal to collect information about a person, parent or child, without their express concent. I don't know how, but there are many smart people in the world that can probably figure it out.

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 10 points 10 months ago

I think there are a host of problems including equity, efficacy, privacy, etc.

We don’t need morality police, we need education and better health care. If parents have an issue, they need to parent better.

[–] Gutless2615@ttrpg.network 10 points 10 months ago

Any so called privacy law that enriches and ensures that age verification data brokers make bank is fundamentally and irrevocably broken.

[–] kbal@fedia.io 6 points 10 months ago

Snake oil salesmen never had it so good. Without the layers of abstraction provided by computers, nobody would've believed their magic elixirs would protect children from getting interested in sex until their parents approved of it.

[–] fruitycoder@sh.itjust.works 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Sites should empower parents to control that. Have a sign in by default and an option to ask the site to block ips associated with you to be able to sign up for more accounts.

Are there ways around it? Sure. It's a just a lock to keep honest kids out. If your kid doesn't feel comfortable about asking about stuff like this or feel like they have to around you, you aren't going to win, they'll find it, and it'll be a blast for them. If you talk about it, at least acknowledge the issues with it, say when it is and isn't appropriate, etc it'll do leagues better then all bans and censorship attempts in the world.

[–] ridethisbike@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago (3 children)

The IP thing backfires when you inevitably get assigned a new IP and the guy down the street now can't look at his porn anymore because the website blocked the IP

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[–] devfuuu@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

Just open another site.

[–] Squid@leminal.space 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Another reason to pirate

Also if the government do feel the need to "help" parents and the larger social fabric then why not put money into civil dutys classes in schools. Teach kid how to grow into normal adults, the trickle down would be much greater than these half baked ducktape tactics

[–] InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago (4 children)

Yea but a lot might see a boobie, can you image the horror.
Content filtering solutions are imperfect but it's good enough and easy enough to use at home if you need to.
Worst case, your kid learns to bypass content filtering and sparks a career in IT or something.

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