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[โ€“] ComicalMayhem@lemmy.world 76 points 11 months ago (6 children)

Who out here getting three girlfriend ๐Ÿ˜ญ

[โ€“] z500@startrek.website 54 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Who the fuck has time for three girlfriends?

[โ€“] TranscendentalEmpire@lemm.ee 56 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Nobody, which is why poly is exclusively for people with a scheduling kink.

But yeah, I've never met a poly person who would bring three of their partners to a single event and introduce them all as their girlfriends. In fact, I don't think I've ever met a poly who calls their partners "girlfriend".

[โ€“] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I've allowed my partner to refer to me as girlfriend to make discussion with others easier. I don't love it, it doesn't sound like a longterm adult relationship, but I recognize it's easier to say "my wife and my girlfriend".

and both of us go to family Christmas, though not everyone needs to know relationship status.

... you're absolutely right about the scheduling thing though.

[โ€“] TranscendentalEmpire@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

I've allowed my partner to refer to me as girlfriend to make discussion with others easier.

That's pretty understandable and reasonable, but something tells me bringing another girlfriend to the same party would probably make the whole point a little moot.

Something about the post reads as "I'm only poly to upset my parents", and that's not typically what I see when interacting with the community. All the successful poly relationships I've seen have taken a ton of work and communication for it to function, and tend to be more mature than let's go upset my partners parents.

[โ€“] Vespair@lemm.ee 12 points 11 months ago

I was in a poly relationship. I called my girlfriend "girlfriend" and she called me her "boyfriend," and she also called her other boyfriend "boyfriend" and he called her "girlfriend."

It was a great, genuinely healthy relationship, and Kyle was an excellent dude who always treated our girlfriend excellently

[โ€“] Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Can I acquire a scheduling kink?

[โ€“] irreticent@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago

It depends... when are you available?

[โ€“] Starkstruck@lemmy.world 11 points 11 months ago

Just wait till they unionize

[โ€“] PersnickityPenguin@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago

Late 20s it's kind of doable, at least for awhile. But usually they don't know each other, lol.

[โ€“] zyratoxx@lemm.ee 30 points 11 months ago

Dude is a hentai main character

[โ€“] RacoonVegetable@reddthat.com 17 points 11 months ago (1 children)

They gotta leave some for us ๐Ÿ˜ซ

[โ€“] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 11 months ago

Well, the nice thing about poly is that.. they do! As you can still date the same people they're dating!

[โ€“] datelmd5sum@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago

A broke ass prince from UAE.

[โ€“] Rin@lemm.ee 45 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Please elaborate. How do you acquire these women?

[โ€“] Idreamofcheesy@lemmy.world 76 points 11 months ago (2 children)
[โ€“] Johanno@feddit.de 52 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (4 children)

Ok I shaved my beard. Now what?

[โ€“] Idreamofcheesy@lemmy.world 91 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] BurnedDonutHole@lemmy.ml 35 points 11 months ago

Ahahahahahah you bastards made me laugh so hard... Thank you all. May your day be very nice to you all.

[โ€“] trashgirlfriend@lemmy.world 38 points 11 months ago (3 children)

dm me for some estrogen pills

[โ€“] LuckingFurker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] magmaus3@szmer.info 10 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Nikki@lemmy.world 11 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Xelnoc@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 11 months ago

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘ˆ

[โ€“] SkySyrup@sh.itjust.works 10 points 11 months ago
[โ€“] Johanno@feddit.de 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Mhh maybe once I ruled out other shape shifting options

[โ€“] caseyweederman@lemmy.ca 10 points 11 months ago

Be the change you want to see in the girl

[โ€“] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 34 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I had three girlfriends for a while in my late twenties in that I was the guy they hooked up with when their primaries were out and they were feeling lonely / jealous. Not a great gig, as I was getting laid way less than I would have liked.

Curiously, my flat-mate's boyfriend, who was getting plenty, was envious of my poly adventures, maybe imaging more of a harem lifestyle than I actually had.

PS: Only in my late forties did I ever become comfortable letting my parents get news about my love life, by which time it had stabilized.

[โ€“] kittykittycatboys@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Yadaran@feddit.de 18 points 11 months ago

me but with nobody ฦ:

[โ€“] MTLion3@lemm.ee 20 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It's not unusual if you're poly

[โ€“] MTLion3@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Faaair, but that seems more than a little rare lol

[โ€“] Kattail_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 months ago

i mean, i acknowledge I'm still young and all my relationships are long distance, but like, i have 5 gfs, and like, my parents are actually hella accepting

Bottom shelf anime, top shelf meme

[โ€“] RIP_Cheems@lemmy.world 13 points 11 months ago (2 children)

The real question is how do you pull 3 girls at the same time?

[โ€“] Kase@lemmy.world 19 points 11 months ago

The use of "three of my girlfriends," instead of something like "my three girlfriends," makes me wonder if she's got more

[โ€“] bbpolterGAYst@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 11 months ago

you gotta take the goodpersonpill and start personalitymaxxing