Intetesing. But doesn't that like forget about bad actors? People arguing in bad faith and so on?
Also it's obviously waay different if you "debate" someone on the internet vs someone say at work when eating together.
this post was submitted on 13 Nov 2023
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Something I've encountered constantly online is the pedantic type who simply wants to "win" the argument at any cost, and will very much argue in bad faith and ignore (or pretend to not understand) a solid counter-argument or facts that don't fit their narrative.
I think making a good effort at radical empathy and trying one's best to see the other side can potentially help expose the bad faith arguments. But, there are a lot of dirty tricks out there like the Gish Gallop, etc.
And I don’t always have the energy if I’m being honest! Connected knowing takes energy and heart and it’s not always available for me to use. I have to pick my battles with this one too.
Same here. I prefer discussion with reasonable folks. When it starts getting nasty I usually disengage or even block the person. I respect the radical empathy approach, and I try to use it with people I engage with in person. But I have little patience with online trolls and pendants anymore. It's a waste of time and energy.
Fair yes!
the pedantic type
The pedantic type is one thing; the propagandist troll is another. "Making a good effort at radical empathy" won't do a damn thing against the latter; in that case the correct tactic is to call out their bullshit and mock them mercilessly until they're driven away (or get the mods to ban them, but you can't always count on that).
I guess it’s also getting curious about their intentions and that would be part of learning about the context. Bad people say true things for evil reasons sometimes, does that bad intention matter?
It probably matters if the goal is to harm you or your close friends.
It's always a good idea to understand ppl and their views, because it helps to confirm or reject your own hypotheses, which are plenty. But there's a reason you always have to take any claim from an unknown or untrusted source with varying grains of salt. Especially considering we are living in a world where the internet is the one central source of information and bad actors are starting to flood all channels that provide information.
Agreed! Because the way I understand it, connected knowing isn’t trusting the other peoples truths as fact, it’s understanding that it’s true for them and getting curious about that. We can’t just go around equating other people’s beliefs with fact and losing our sense of reason, science, and truth.
God, I hope amber turd doesnt flood the channels
Can you share some examples? This concept is too obscure for me to understand.
Here’s another example I saw on the inter webs. One of the questions in the research was “Do you start to argue the opposite point of view of what someone’s saying while they’re saying it?” Or something like that.
Yes good question! It was actually this response on one of my posts that got me thinking about it: https://programming.dev/comment/4765560
I felt it missed the point of my original post, because I didn’t do intensive research before posting it and just wanted to have a casual discussion and start some Lemmy engagement. I think this would be an example of Separate Knowing, missing the forest for the trees of a sentence or two I threw together in passing. And then I remembered that happens a lot on the internet but I didn’t want it to deter me!
You can just frame this as semantics and pragmatics. I basically disagree with the premise of this branch of sociology and find it disrupts discourse and effective problem solving.
Another way of putting that would be, such nuance is the skin on the apple, not the whole apple. It can add a little extra to your analysis, but shouldn't be used as a cudgel to undermine the foundation.
So the first type is INT and the second type is WIS ?
We've probably all witnessed CHA type, but I'm more curious what DEX would be like.
This reminds me of the One Health approach to healthcare.
One Health is a collaborative, multisectoral, and transdisciplinary approach — working at the local, regional, national, and global levels — with the goal of achieving optimal health outcomes recognizing the interconnection between people, animals, plants, and their shared environment.
One example of this would be trying to curb antibiotic resistance. We have banned certain antibiotics for human use, but let veterinarians still use it for animals. Well humans aren't dumb and just went to a vet for the same antibiotic they're used to using which defeated the purpose of banning it for human use (to reserve it so resistance to it doesn't spread). An understanding of the connectedness of people and a bigger picture of antibiotics use was needed before policy should have been made.
Source: It was revealed to me in a dream.
This is really interesting. Without knowing there was a word for it, I've often found myself wishing people (including myslef at times) did a better job of the Connected Knowing approach.
I thought so too! It can feel like people are missing each other and talking past one another in our typical discourse. It’s not how adults change each others minds though, or change our ideology or grow our understand, we have to connect at a deeper level for that.
I think some people just don't have much capacity for connected knowing.
Are you reinventing empathy?