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[–] vivadanang@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Books. If you go to someone's house and they don't have books, don't fuck them. - John Waters

[–] TheBiscuitLout@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Massively. My first manoeuvre when I go in someone’s house is to look at their bookcase, and judge them accordingly.

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[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't think I've stopped to think what the different flags for people are for me. It's just something I've instinctively known and haven't really thought about

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[–] ThePenitentOne@discuss.online 11 points 1 year ago

They are self-aware, willing to change and learn, and have a rational, logical view of things. It's rare to meet people like that, but they are by far the best people. Someone's philosophy on life is probably the best descriptor of a person.

[–] redprog@feddit.de 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Informs you about stuff proactively and you don't have to pull everything out of them yourself

[–] raichu@hachyderm.io 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Italy and Bulgaria come to mind

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[–] ramenshaman@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Interested in learning and willing to change their mind when presented with new information.

[–] ComradePorkRoll@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago (4 children)
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[–] pixxelkick@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)
  1. Their fingernails. It sounds weird, but you can tell a lot about a person by how maintained their nails are. If they have long gross unkept nails, it says a lot. Versus trimmed and clean nails.

  2. I always do dinner and a movie for Date 1. At dinner, how do they treat the staff? Are they kind, do they thank the worker for their help? Do they tip well? Do they take forever to pick an item off the menu? When I offer to pay, do they initially counter offer for them to pay or us split at least?

  3. I'd just ask them their thoughts on trans folks wanting to participate in the Olympics with their same gender. The way they react to a hardball question pretty quickly outs any red flags.

[–] zwaetschgeraeuber@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)
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[–] BartsBigBugBag@lemmy.tf 6 points 1 year ago (4 children)

That’s interesting. I was a long time nail biter, and I only recently managed to stop, I literally never before had cut my nails. Even when I was a baby, my mom bit my nails, she was like 15 when I was born and didn’t know how to adult. Do you have any tips for taking care of nails? It’s all new to me. So far I’ve found that filing them is worth doing, and my hands get way dirtier now that I have a place for dirt to hide under.

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[–] BearJCC@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 1 year ago

They care about other people

Texts me and makes plans instead of me being the one who has to.

[–] WindowsEnjoyer@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)
  • Atheist
  • Common sense of humor + loves memes/shitposting
  • Loves computers
  • Self confident
  • Good looking
  • Doing (cardio) sports
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[–] MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago

Appreciates spiders and other crawlies.

[–] carl_dungeon@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

They take the time to clean up all the blood!

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[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You know, I don't have one. I should come up with something so people have quick ways to go up in my opinion and not just down. It will make me less sad.

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