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Sometimes ya just gotta be bold and get in there and play the game!!
Post it here as well👺
If it’s too spicy for the group chat it’s too spicy for Lemmy.
Yes I too have found out the hard way on this.
the trick is to make a single, different account as your "fuck it, I don't care" account, and use it as an outlet vent that ignores the social engineering systems put in place by social media. You could even get valuable insight into how much is actually acceptable to the hive mind on various platforms, instead of just clicking "back" before submitting and wondering what could've been
when you stop caring about what other people think, it feels almost cathartic to not have the weight of second guessing yourself always looming over. however, I say this as a boring af individual without any spicy takes anyways - but I'm always open to seeing more interesting, varied things on lemmy
Of course I know that account, it’s me.
I think a lot of people are which is why my more spicy stuff is usually upvoted a lot but there are unfortunately at least a minority that can't handle it sometimes and that's gotten me in a little trouble before.
if the negative feedback gets to you, you could always just delete the alt, start the experiment all over again as a completely different person, and leave that baggage behind for the digital worms to eat; it goes into the cathartic and "fuck it"-ness part of it
edit: all this is part of the reason I like kbin over other instances; being able to see upvotes/downvotes from which accounts, and their timings, makes it a little more difficult to hide vote manipulation with mass account creation and IP-hopping. though someone really dedicated to their pointless digital number could, over a long enough time span, still hide that
There are people on here that nitpick the format of the meme, insist that it should instead be posted on some other random instance because of the category and everything in between. I couldn't care less what they think but there's usually enough where they'll report it regardless.
On Lemmy you are much better off keeping the memes fairly tame on any of the major instances at least. If you know of an instance that ain't like this let me know.
ah yeah, I agree, the "Ackchyually" crowd is a lot more vocal here than in other places, I've noticed. My best guess is lemmy's filled with a lot more tech enthusiasts, and a good portion of the more vocal ones among them have a hard time seeing the forest from the trees, and just gotta be heard nitpicking every little detail. I'm hoping that's just temporary (and will change as the user count grows), because, again, I agree, it can get exhausting interacting with them.
the best course of action I've found is to not interact with them at all - they, almost always, become time and sanity vampires, with all their focus on feeling right than having a conversation, and nothing's gained after trying. advice for ignoring them beyond that: 🤷♂️
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