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[–] fantine9@lemm.ee 2 points 6 hours ago

You. And also the pet name that my late husband used for me, if I'm feeling especially pitiful or otherwise in need of encouragement.

[–] qyron@sopuli.xyz 3 points 8 hours ago

I, you, we and thou.

As in:

"What am I doing?!"

"You're getting older, not younger."

"Let's not do this again."

"Thou have lost the little bit of reasoning you had left."

And it scares people.

[–] OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 3 points 8 hours ago
[–] squinky@lemm.ee 2 points 8 hours ago

“We”. Not sure why. I guess it’s me and the person I’m talking to (who is also me)

[–] KingOogaBooga@lemmy.world 5 points 10 hours ago

We. You are a combination of all the entities living on or in you. We are Us.

[–] Brewchin@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago

Both. "I am an idiot." "You should know better."

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 3 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

"We"

"Do we think that leftover scree was important? Do we remember where it came from?"

"We need to get some more sleep."

Sometimes it's "You" when referring to the lazy, scared, or angry one.

"You're overreacting. You'll be fine. You're upset over nothing."

Never I.

[–] josefo@leminal.space 3 points 11 hours ago

There are multiple voices, one says "I" while the others respond with "you" if they are disagreeing, or "we" if they agree.

  • I should shave
  • Yes we should
  • No, you shouldn't. You look stupid.
  • I think that's right, I'm not shaving.
[–] PillowTalk420@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

Depends which side of myself is currently speaking.

[–] uhmbah@lemmy.ca 3 points 12 hours ago

Yes. I says to you.

[–] JakenVeina@lemm.ee 10 points 16 hours ago

Interesting that several people are reporting using "you" for negative sentiments, because I use "I" for those as well. E.G. "Well, I'm a fucking idiot."

[–] Inucune@lemmy.world 6 points 14 hours ago (1 children)
[–] JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Distancing yourself from yourself, like an external narrator

[–] Inucune@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago

More the equivalent of a parent using your full name before telling you to do something... But it is your own mental monologue.

[–] grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 11 hours ago

We and us-- "let's go do blah, we ought to blah"

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 32 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

"we" and other first-person-plurals

[–] boatswain@infosec.pub 14 points 20 hours ago

We're right there with y'all.

[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 3 points 13 hours ago

Always I. Didn't know other people didn't always use I apparently.

[–] thelsim@sh.itjust.works 9 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I tend to just leave them out all together. Don’t know why though, maybe it’s faster?
It feels a bit like when you read a book fast and skip over entire words.

“Need to do some cleaning.”
“How could this be done faster?”
Or a common one:
“Hungry” :)

[–] callyral@pawb.social 6 points 16 hours ago

The passive voice is often used.

[–] Jerb322@lemmy.world 15 points 19 hours ago

Depends on if I'm mad at myself...

"I should go get some food."

"You fucking idiot."

[–] thesohoriots@lemmy.world 19 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Typically “you” if it’s in my head, but if said out loud it’s “I”

[–] toy_boat_toy_boat@lemmy.world 6 points 20 hours ago

i use "ye", too, but only at renaissance festivals

[–] kubica@fedia.io 12 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Both. And often also by name for some sarcasms.

[–] stinky@redlemmy.com 1 points 13 hours ago

Yeah this l me too. it depends on the context

[–] darkmarx@lemmy.world 8 points 20 hours ago

Depends which part of myself I'm talking to. If it's just a general conversation, it's "we." If it's more of a direct conversation to a part of my mind, it's "you." If I'm talking about myself to a third-party, such as this response, it's "I."

[–] Flamekebab@piefed.social 8 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

It took me a moment to realise this was about inner monologues.

[–] snek_boi@lemmy.ml 2 points 20 hours ago

Could be thinking out loud or reflection via writing 🤷‍♂️

[–] RadicalEagle@lemmy.world 6 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Both, but it also depends on if I’m winning the argument or they are.

[–] toomanypancakes@lemmy.world 4 points 18 hours ago

I use I unless I'm insulting or denigrating myself, then it's usually you

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 6 points 20 hours ago

I call myself by name, like a parent scolding their child.

[–] Devmapall@lemm.ee 5 points 19 hours ago

If it's my internal monologue it's usually "I"

If I'm writing about myself (like a journal) then also "I"

If it's a note to remind myself of something then "you"

I have written letters to myself in the future and those are always "you"

[–] icerunner_origin@startrek.website 5 points 20 hours ago (1 children)
[–] will_a113@lemm.ee 4 points 20 hours ago

“One” for me as well. No need to be so informal just because it’s all in my head.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 4 points 20 hours ago

I am an "I".

[–] quediuspayu@lemmy.world 4 points 20 hours ago

In my languages we don't usually use pronouns because verbs conjugations make them redundant, but I use both first and second person.

[–] chickenf622@sh.itjust.works 4 points 20 hours ago

I think I mix them interchangeably. Much to the chagrin of my English teachers.

[–] Geodad@lemm.ee 3 points 20 hours ago

Yes, and sometimes other things.

[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 3 points 20 hours ago

Both, with a slight preference for "I".

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 3 points 20 hours ago

I, we, you, they, kinda all of them. I kinda make up characters in my head and assign them positions and personalities based on the need of the moment, and address them as appropriate. I don't give them names or anything, it's more like 'that dick who keeps telling me to get off my ass and be productive can piss off', etc.

[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 3 points 20 hours ago

"I" or "we" in English, German is mostly reserved for deep thoughts where I rarely need to address myself but if I do I think I use "ich" ("I") as well. "You" wouldn't feel right for me personally.