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Explain Like I'm Five

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[–] masquenox@lemmy.world 57 points 6 days ago

Your brother is being recruited by the fascists. That is what is going on.

[–] Foofighter@discuss.tchncs.de 33 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Ask him,whether this alpha beta talk is a furry thing.

[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 16 points 5 days ago

Kick him in the nuts so hard you remove him from the gene pool permanently.

[–] Bronzebeard@lemm.ee 37 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Anyone who has to vocalize that they're an alpha, isn't. Your brother is a loser.

If you have to say you're in charge, you're not

[–] lurklurk@lemmy.world 18 points 5 days ago

He's defective. Talk to the manufacturer about getting a replacement

[–] boaratio@lemmy.world 17 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] NikkiDimes@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] wabafee@lemmy.world 19 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

Just tell him that alpha and beta thing does not exist in the wild. Even the author said so.

https://phys.org/news/2021-04-wolf-dont-alpha-males-females.html

It does not apply to humans. Are you saying your brother is a wolf? Is he a furry perhaps?

Humans are more complex than that.

[–] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 2 points 3 days ago

Also doesn't apply to wolves, the original researcher just mistook a parent protecting her kids for an aggressive male

[–] Fades@lemmy.world 5 points 5 days ago

Yeah that argument has never dissuaded a single chud from embracing in the “alpha” bullshit. They’re being fed this bs from manosphere manipulators like Andrew Tate or someone adjacent or from peers. Their goal is to become cool and intimidating, it’s not about the bad research that lifted up this bullshit myth so long ago.

[–] DarkFuture@lemmy.world 31 points 6 days ago (5 children)

People are generally stupid, even more so when they're young. Younger people are getting brainwashed by low-IQ online influencers into believing this Alpha/Beta shit.

It's that simple.

If you want to help him, try to break his addiction to those influencers.

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[–] Krudler@lemmy.world 18 points 6 days ago

Young men who start to behave this way are lacking direction and aren't self-starters. So to cope with the fact they aren't accomplishing anything or going anywhere in life, they assume an outwardly-accusing posture.

Contrary to the image peddled by the grifters, every guy I've known with the "alpha" mentality has been a dishwasher, car porter, snow shoveler, or unemployed cretin.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 24 points 6 days ago

Your brother currently is a little loser who listens to the sad little men like Andrew Tate who talk about aloha and beta and have no fucking idea what they're talking about. He can be alright, he just needs to get out and touch grass, interact with real people, interact normally with girls... He'll be fine.

[–] BleatingZombie@lemmy.world 10 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I say this as a younger brother who was beat up by older siblings. If you are both under 18 and he's a lot smaller than you, slap him. If he thinks he's an "alpha" and you aren't, it might be the only thing that points out that he is just human

After you do this, please please please try to point out his error in thinking. No "alpha" commands any respect and the "alpha" bosses are the ones nobody wants to work for

[–] LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world 9 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

"There is no such thing, if you want I can slap you around and prove you're just a normal person if you like?"

Avoids hitting anyone and hopefully gets the point across. If it doesn't... Wouldn't hitting them not get it across anyways?

[–] roofuskit@lemmy.world 25 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Get him off YouTube and social media

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[–] Forester@pawb.social 6 points 5 days ago

Every time he says it ask him if that's a furry thing.

[–] MooseTheDog@lemmy.world 14 points 6 days ago

All alpha maleism is categorically insecurity. For each of them it's different. Figure out exactly what he's trying to bury under all this tate shit and address it directly. It could be the onset of male loneliness, that shows up around the teenage years - lasts forever though if he's aware he can make changes. It could be he's insecure in his own sexuality - just get him to open up and take everything he said to the grave with you. There could be a person or activity the betas engage in that he can't, or is afraid of being made fun if. Teach him how to stand up to that shit and grow through it.

I'm not suggesting you punish your bro in a way that would enable this behavior further. It's hard to be an alpha type when you're showered in love and support- it just looks stupid. He's probably going through some of the first real life shit, and handling it poorly. As his sister you're kinda on the hook for helping him through this. If you do, you'd probably have a better brother and friend.

[–] schnurrito@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

How old is your brother? If he is an early teenager, it is possible that he picked these concepts up from somewhere and will very likely grow out of that thinking all by himself.

[–] Patnou@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

Twenty Two. He just started this shit. Me and my mom don't know to be offened worried or what.

[–] wrekone@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

This comment section is either full of top notch satirists or the worst fucking people on Lemmy. I honestly can't tell.

[–] dukethorion@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago

Can't it be both?

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 7 points 6 days ago

Lil bitch got hopped up on manosphere podcasts... Likely due to rejection or and poor social skills.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

Tell him you aren't interested in hearing about his omegaverse self insert

[–] Doorbook@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

The underline issue is that human evolve to be part of social norms. Use to be a tribe, a country, a sport club. But new generation can be have more options. Associating with alpha male or whatever means he belong to a group who might like his meme or comments.

It could also be due to lack of a man figure they can associate with. So watching documentaries of strong males might help shed light on what the role could look like.

What you want is to balance his only identity or group with other (groups). For example, joining a gym, fishing, be part of musical band …. Whatever he is also into, just to get him out of that only identity he is associating with.

For me I would try to come from telling him being alpha means you can hunt or camp or survive in the wild, then lead to cooking classes or wood working. Something that mentally and physically taxing. I also would watch gordon Ramsay shows and Anthony Bourdain just to crash that image of one way to be an alpha male. You can cook and be an alpha male as the same time type thing.

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[–] Dkarma@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago

The surest way to guarantee you're a beta is by calling yourself an alpha

[–] DarkNightoftheSoul@mander.xyz 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

disgusted to see "just hit your brother" so sentimentally popular. Please dont abuse your family members as a method to disabuse them of their indoctrination. how would that work? seems pretty obvious to me it would only reinforce the view that alphas are stronger than others and can get what they want through violence. it's a humorless joke at best and terrible advice at worst. shame on anyone who made the remark, and shame on all those who voted it up.

op, check out fd signifier.

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[–] MITM0@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (7 children)

Re-educate him & show that Alphas don't live that long

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[–] piecat@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago

Alpha and beta? I'm released on service pack 2

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