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Find a game and join a clan! Doesn't matter the type of game either. I've made lots of friends who all play Beat Saber. We get together (online) to play for a few hours every Sunday.
We have a blast discussing the endless statistics of BeatLeader, share jokes/memes, etc on Discord all day every day (haha). It's a lot of fun.
Kink dating apps seem to work well for me. Also rather than swiping on repeats and ladies that aren't my type I block, sounds heartless but its good to have a boundary and stops mainstream dating apps from repeating the same people. personal I avoid woman who in every photo are at a club, wear brands, plastic surgery, essentially they have life styles at odds from mine. Outdoorsy, intelligent seems my type so basically don't shy from setting boundary.
And like most other comments have mentioned, pursue your passion, if thats video game, science fiction or sports, post about it, have discussions and genuinely seek positive interactions.
At this point in my life, almost all of my friends have come from TTRPGs I've joined online. I even moved across the country to be nearer to the core group that I was friends with.
There's something to be said about experiencing (fantasy) hardships that show you true colors of people without having to get into really messy emotional things irl.
Or I'm just lucky.
I met my girlfriend on two different apps actually. The first time it died out but we still thought about each other. So when we found each other 2 years later we decided to try again. The thing that worked for us was to call each other, when we did that we were stuck
Beats the fuck out of me. This form of social media always has that trait of disposable conversations, but then again, when you've been alone as long as I have you tend to be crazy enough to convince yourself that your mania is just a new normal and you didn't need anyone to start with.
Apps can definitely work. I met my wife on Tinder, and i know two friends of mine who used Bumble specifically to find friends after moving to a new city, which worked and they now have an active friend group there.
I just made a great little group of friends in Palia
Discord is the only way gang
