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[–] mindbleach@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 hours ago

!unixsocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 11 points 9 hours ago (5 children)

Why there are many transfem/femboys associated with computer stuff? I'm genuinely curious.

[–] socsa@piefed.social 1 points 19 seconds ago

Because it's cool af

[–] mizuki@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 minutes ago

Someone should do a study into this, I'm genuinely curious why there's such a huge association (me included :3)

Because it's awesome and cool, is there really a better reason? That's the reason I'm into computer stuff, and also why I'm a femboy.

Many get into computers when they are younger and before they realize they are girls, they continue doing it after they come out because they like it and/or it pays well.

[–] isVeryLoud@lemmy.ca 11 points 6 hours ago

Neurodivergence

[–] Backlog3231@reddthat.com 5 points 9 hours ago

no wait don't go!

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 10 points 15 hours ago

You slay girl!

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I love them, they are so cute. I hope the other the people liked OOP's outfit even though it was a mistake that they posted there.

[–] kameecoding@lemmy.world 10 points 10 hours ago

Looks more functional than OOP to me

[–] k5nn@lemmy.world 7 points 17 hours ago

no wait... I'am I N T E R E S T E D

[–] DragonsInARoom@lemmy.world 12 points 22 hours ago
[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Very nice programming socks :3

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 4 points 17 hours ago

Agreed, they are very nice.

[–] OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 17 points 1 day ago

Yes I like them

[–] asudox@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Hmm, does clothing up as a girl really feel that good?

[–] VeganCheesecake@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 10 minutes ago

Find out, try it.

[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 27 minutes ago) (1 children)

As someone who doesn't get the gender feelies at all, dresses and sarongs are cool (as in, good for warm weather). High socks are so amazing that everyone wore them for much of the middle ages (they're warm!). Called hosen wool socks and a tunic was ordinary commoner attire. (And yes, your nethers and janglies were free to the open air underneath. Laundry without machines was too labor intensive for non-nobles to have underwear.)

Makeup is weird, but looking amazing is fun. (My experience with it was on stage, and putting on eyeliner was hard to do without flinching.)

While I can appreciate a cool tool (say tweezers with a magnifying lens attached) tactical stuff painted black doesn't make sense in contrast to stuff painted a bright color that can easily be seen (on the assumption that I'm not in combat hidden in cover), bright pink is fine except when everything else is also bright pink. (A lot of beach dayglo colors are meant to be well offset against the ocean greens and blues).

Now that's on the practical side. Some folks get a HUGE buzz from representing according to their gender identity. Trans folk know this because wearing the stuff they like is [regarded by others as] weird in contrast to the stuff that mom bought them while they were growing up, so they've had cause to actually explore this aspect of themselves.

But there are guys who like to double down on butchness and gals who like getting ready for the night out more than the going out, itself. And then there are dudes who, no matter how masculine they represent, feel inadequate and wussy, which likely informs alpha male rhetoric and the far-right man-o-sphere pundits.

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 14 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

I'm the same way, I don't get gender feels either 🖤🩶🤍💚🤍🩶🖤, and I would very much agree with most of this except the part about having contrasting colors. I do think that having bright colors in contrast with darker ones does look cool, even if it is less practical.

I'm also not really a big fan of makeup, it feels very weird. Maybe I'd be okay with it if I wanted/needed to look a certain way for some kind of performance or special event but otherwise I'd just rather keep my face clean.

Edit: Okay who downvoted this, someone upset that I'm unapologetically Agender? Well get used to it bitch I'm not sorry about who I am, and certainly not in LGBTQ friendly spaces.

[–] Hupf@feddit.org 5 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Edit: Okay who downvoted this, someone upset that I'm unapologetically Agender?

Not the downvoter. If I had to guess, maybe they had strong feelings against

  • presenting your personals before the point (as in off-topic/look at me)
  • pushing the agender agenda
  • emoji usage on Lemmy
  • they just hate LGBTQA people, who knows

People will downvote and block nowadays rather than give feedback and discuss. Probably also an effect of information overdosing on the Internet.

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 7 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Probably very likely the last one, I do know that downvoting people for being openly queer is unfortunately common. It was a big problem on Reddit. I once saw a person in r/SwitchPirates being downvoted because she was a trans girl who was openly trans.

Also I feel like the second one is the same as the last one since there really isn't an Agender, NonBinary, Gay, or Trans agenda, that's just queerphobes who want to make out Queer people to be some kind of bad guys to fight against, rather than people who just want to exist and be recognized.

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 12 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Personally I think so, especially thigh highs, they are very comfy. Oversize hoodies are also very nice as well.

[–] _cryptagion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Now see, I’m on board with anything that doesn’t hug my legs too tight like this. My leg hairs are so long that it bothers me were I to wear thigh highs.

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 3 points 19 hours ago

Fair enough, I don't have that issue but I could definitely understand why that would be a reason people would want to avoid something tight like thigh highs.

[–] python@programming.dev 101 points 1 day ago (4 children)

To be fair though, thigh highs are really nice to calm down restless leg, so sometimes they actually are pretty good for programming

[–] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 58 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Can't believe you'd suggest that's the only way thigh-highs would be good for programming, I'm insulted

[–] python@programming.dev 78 points 1 day ago (5 children)

They do also hook your brain up to the girl-matrix, allowing you to tap into the shared brainpower of all other thigh-high wearers for your programming. But that's common knowledge, so I didn't feel like I had to mention it

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 5 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (1 children)

girl-matrix

That implies that thigh highs are girly, which doesn't make sense since they're just long comfy socks that go up to your thighs (as the name implies), anyone can wear them, doesn't matter if they're a girl, boy, or even NonBinary

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Also anyone can be feminine regardless of gender and the way you act or dress doesn't invalidate that :3

(In addition clothes are just pieces of cloth, why the hell do we assign genders to them)

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 3 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Exactly couldn't agree more, and yeah cloths are just cloth, it's really weird that we assign gender to them at all.

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 15 hours ago

Fun fact: Spartan soldiers wore miniskirts, they're still considered the "peak of masculinity"

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[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 14 points 22 hours ago (6 children)

Plot twist: They're a they/them user and you just misgendered them either way.

[–] AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip 58 points 1 day ago (6 children)

Shakespear rolling in his grave because even he used singular they...

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