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[–] LouNeko@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

Pay people a living wage and their gonna live.

Pay people more than a living wage and their gonna create more life.

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 36 points 21 hours ago (7 children)

The reason why people aren't having kids anymore isn't because of abortion, its because: wages are decreasing (accounting for inflation), the cost of living is skyrocketing (yes even accounting for inflation), the cost of owning a home is now far too much for young people, people are working longer and more stressful hours in worse jobs for worse bosses, public areas have been destroyed leading to less in person interaction, online dating is toxic, the internet has given people heightened expectations, an unresolved mental health crisis, and people are finally becoming responsible enough to understand that you shouldn't have kids you cant afford.

[–] datelmd5sum@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

Losing my job and seeing there's about 100 times more people applying for IT jobs than there are IT jobs made me go from "maybe" to "nah" in the procreation question. Too many people already procreated too many times before me.

[–] stinerman@midwest.social 13 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

online dating is toxic

I've read some good evidence is that this is because women, especially zoomer and millennial women, are considerably more liberal than the men in their peer group. Historically, women have always been more liberal than men, but the difference between them has gotten extreme in the last 10 years. Being a Trump supporter is a deal-breaker for many single women.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

Great news - the fewer Trumpers who reproduce, the better.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Online dating is incredibly toxic for gay men, too, so this isn't something that can be completely explained by a shift in women's ideology.

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[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

That's completely reasonable, why would a women date a man who thinks that she doesn't own her own body (not all but a significant amount of Trump supporters believe that). In addition women are more liberal because primarily their rights have and are being threatened by Trump, furthermore women are more likely to be sympathetic to other minorities who may loose their rights as well. On top of that young conservative men are very often completely delusional in terms of dating expectations. Many of them demand an extremely young person (18-20), demand they be stay at home, demand many children, while not having a job capable of upholding such a lifestyle because they cannot accept that the world we live in is not the same one our grandparents lived in. In addition young conservatives (especially young Trump supporters) tend to have completely unreasonable demands and expectations due to them being terminally online and a very poor understanding of women.

[–] Maeve@midwest.social 6 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

It's even worse than that. They want women to work full time, keep all the housework done, assume all the work with the child after work, while cooking dinner, washing up, stay looking fantastic, never complain and oh, mow the lawn while I'm playing golf/bball/football on Saturday, and don't forget Suzie has ballet on Wednesday, Bobby has detention on Friday, and football practice on Saturday.

[–] LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Not so sure about that. Isn't Vance advocating for women to strive to be stay at home moms. So you can cut the full time job from that list. His comments about staying in the kitchen would also rule out the lawn and driving anywhere. I think he just wants women to stay home and be there for when their husband wants to see them, and only leave the house when he wants to bring her somewhere.

[–] Maeve@midwest.social 2 points 7 hours ago

Probably. I just meant that's the mindset of certain men in our area. Certain meaning if they want the trad wife but realize a single income isn't enough. Or whatever else is convenient, I guess. I'm just going by those I've known in a concentrated region, not all men are like that and I'm so glad!

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[–] Disgracefulone@discuss.online 7 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

You just listed 6 reasons why people are losing their minds then casually throw out "being responsible enough to not have kids they can't afford"

Which is if? Everyone's losing their goddamn minds of people have their shit together? Which is it damn it!!

/S

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (1 children)

I forgot that only one thing can be true at once, its actually none of the reasons listed. The true reason is that the 5g radio waves connect with the vaccine autism to produce gay frog chemicals (that are spread by chemtrails in planes piloted by lizard people) so that everyone becomes trans.

/s /j

[–] Disgracefulone@discuss.online 4 points 20 hours ago

This makes way more sense

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[–] meyotch@slrpnk.net 24 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I have a modest proposal.

Let’s all just skip a generation and no one have kids this time. We can easily start having kids again later with a nice clean slate.

Good idea, right?

[–] randon31415@lemmy.world 2 points 12 hours ago

I see what you did there.

Of course, if you outlaw kids, only outlaws will have kids.

[–] Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 21 hours ago

Good call! Next gen can have children for our pensions!

[–] iAvicenna@lemmy.world 46 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

well that is because shareholders are wetting their pants realizing that with low birth rates they are losing both slaves and customers. Well, jokes on them, it is because of the shitty world they spearheaded (and that we followed)

[–] Frostbeard@lemmy.world 11 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

Tbf. Norway has a fertility rate of 1,4 I think. And that is in a country with (compared to many other places) quite generous benefits like a year paid maternity/paternity leave. Relative cheap and abundant kindergartens and a less horrible work situation. Think everyone are feeling the zeitgeist

[–] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 10 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

People want stability before they have kids. Generous government benefits matter little if you're living in a cardboard box. No one wants to raise a child in a cardboard box. Look up the cost of housing in the Nordic countries. They aren't the socialist paradise you're making them out to be.

[–] Frostbeard@lemmy.world 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

It's more nuanced than that. Wages are comparable high, and there are some tax regulations that makes owning less expensive. Renting is still not the norm in Norway. Second+++ apartments/houses are severely taxed in a recent new regulation (incidentally making renting more expensive as they were sold off)

Outside some "metropolitan" areas like Oslo you can find lex expensive homes. But you are correct that prices have started to be our of reach of many, and stability is key for starting a family.

And Norway is by no means a paradise, but it seems more agreeable than the US.

[–] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 4 points 17 hours ago

The median household income in Norway is 590,000 NOK. The median total housing expense is about 158,000 NOK. Thus the median Norwegian household is spending about 27% of their income on housing. This is pretty comparable to the US, where the median figure is 26%.

This is the median across the whole population, and of course, for younger people that amount should be higher. Really it seems that the US and Norway are about the same when it comes to housing affordability.

It gets worse however if you look at actual home prices and not just monthly payments. The average home price in Norway is about 5,000,000 NOK.. That means the average home costs about 8.5x the average income. In the US, the median home price is about $430,000., while the median household income is about $77.5k. The average home in the US thus costs about 5.5x the average income.

Homes in the US are cheaper than in Norway, while US incomes are higher. The median household income in Norway is the equivalent of $54,000. Also, the median home in the US is larger than that of Norway.

This is somewhat ameliorated by the fact that US consumers have to pay more out of pocket for healthcare, childcare, and commuting costs than their Norwegian equivalents do. But really, it shows that even after the subsidies, Norway is no more affordable for new parents than the US is. If anything, it's probably more affordable in the US. Yes, you can always move to a rural area in Norway to get cheaper housing, but you can do the same in the US. People live in those bigger, more expensive, cities because they provide better job opportunities and better salaries.

My real point is that we can't just point to the more generous welfare state of the Nordic countries as an example for how birthrates can't be solved with financial incentives. A lot of people like to point to countries with generous welfare states like Norway and say, "look, even countries like Norway, who heavily subsidize healthcare, childcare, and have generous parental leave still have low birth rates!" Typically people who make these arguments want to argue for restricting women's reproductive autonomy.

But it really does come down to housing. And in both Norway and the US, the cost of homeownership is getting way beyond what people of childbearing age can afford. That is the fundamental problem. There's something very deep and instinctive about the places we live in. Having a truly stable place to live, ideally a place you own and can easily afford, is the single greatest way to encourage people of childbearing years to have children. People want to provide a stable environment for children to grow up in. They don't want to live in a place where their landlord could kick them out on a whim. They don't want to be reliant on a government-subsidized apartment that could be taken away from them tomorrow if eligibility rules are changed. People want either very reliable and affordable rental space or ideally a home they own on their own and can't be evicted from. That is the kind of stability people seek before they have children.

[–] NotBillMurray@lemmy.world 4 points 21 hours ago

The world is on fire around us, even in places where it's only smoldering people don't want to consign their children to the flames.

[–] hessenjunge@discuss.tchncs.de 32 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That person and the author of the article obviously suck at reading/understanding crafts. Teen pregnancies did not have a high enough percentage (and it’s good that it went down).

Also, how do you miss the drop in the age range 20 - 24 and the rise in the age ranges above 30. It’s even indicated in the title to “40 is the new 20”.

This is indicative of a bad economy. I bet if you add a graph showing the rise in rent, you will see an inverse correlation.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 day ago

I bet if you add a graph showing the rise in rent, you will see an inverse correlation.

Or about inequality of income.

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Not much of a bet, really. More of a fact.

[–] tehmics@lemmy.world 27 points 1 day ago

It's almost like if people are able to mature enough to make an informed choice, they get a choice.

[–] Sgt_choke_n_stroke@lemmy.world 10 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Poland has super strict abortion bans in 2021. Wait until 2035 to see that place turn into a shithole

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[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world 68 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (8 children)

I think this is where a lot of modern civilization is falling apart at. If you want population replacement and growth, you actually have to make it advantageous to have children, and at appropriate age for your society and culture. The GOP thinks they can do it by destroying reproductive rights, civil rights, and marriage laws, if they harm women enough they'll HAVE to be baby makers! Dehumanized baby factories! And even conservative voters are fighting against it, because it's insane and it's against our current culture. It has to work for everyone. It would be more intelligent to create free childcare, better pregnancy and birth leave for both parents, and child tax credits. They could use WIC to absorb the cost of having a child and public education sooner with preschool. If people are hopeful their children will have high education access and a stable life they will be a lot more likely to have kids. Being horrified that your children will live in a fascist theocracy and intentionally kept uneducated and poverty stricken, they might actually voluntarily avoid sex to not have kids.

[–] xenoclast@lemmy.world 33 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

What if we don't want infinite growth? What about stability? Or (gasp) a population reduction so we don't destroy the planet. Have less babies. Feed the ones we have. Educate them.

[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

I personally think reproductive rights are human rights, every adult should have total personal control over their reproductive choices, I don't think people who chose to have kids should be punished for the choice, and I don't think people who do not wish to have children should be likewise punished for not doing so, nor forced in any way or manipulated into having children. I agree that there has to be a lot of improvement for kids who are here right now. That's an important problem you have to solve first if you want to encourage your population to grow, the outcome must be good now.

[–] blackbirdbiryani@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (7 children)

Sure, easing into a deflating population over several hundred years is fine but tanking it and ending up with a society having to support a vastly older population ain't easy either. Better for governments to provide positive reasons to have children but there's zero chance of that.

[–] leftytighty@slrpnk.net 9 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

We won't starve our old people, there's plenty of wealth to go around, it's just that a tiny portion of the population has stolen it all. Maybe even the average person will have to make some sacrifices if birth rates don't stay at a certain level but our lifestyles are hugely inflated compared to even 50 years ago.

We can live sustainable lives with a reducing population, our productivity per capita is higher than it's ever been, we're all just seeing so little of it.

Instead of Musks and Bezos, instead of all of our creative minds working in advertising and finance, instead of 10 different streaming services, we can have a good quality of life for everyone.

Our economy being efficient is the biggest lie. The economy is only profitable, and it only has good outcomes when those outcomes are aligned with profit. It's time for a new economy that serves the people

Our government has no issue going into debt for anything and everything they want, aside from social services. The whole concept of a younger generation having to take care of a growing older one means nothing to me. If they care, they can shift their priorities on reckless spending. If they don't (they dont) then the population can take to the streets and demand they start caring.

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[–] Mango@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I don't see where anyone should give two shits how many babies other people are having for their own benefit/detriment.

[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world 0 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

Macro economics, you need a growing population to do capitalism at all. You can't have a shrinking consumer base.

Also. If you want to even make it a choice people CAN make, you need to equalize it. We currently punish people for having kids by a upsetting margin, at the very least it should be the same difference, you choose to have a kid, you get appropriate services to make that process at the very least, not a clear negative in all regards.

Thirdishly we are currently getting a very low level of education for our population as a whole, and that's a BIG problem when you chief exports and economy are build on innovation in computer science, physics, and petrochemicals, we need a population with the education to work and move forward or we fall behind and that's it. We actually need a highly educated population of we intent to progress as a society with our without capitalism.

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[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 135 points 1 day ago (21 children)

There was a theory that roughly 15 years after Roe v Wade crime started decreasing because people who weren't ready for or didn't want children could now have an abortion. Many of those kids that were previously born "unwanted" were in poor households and so the kids getting to about 15 years old in those conditions would start getting into trouble and start committing crimes.

For any fuckwit that says "make better decisions then! Use protection!" I'm the result of a broken condom, that shit absolutely happens. I was a "pleasant surprise." Honestly I wish they'd have just had the abortion.

[–] MisterFrog@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

Honestly I wish they'd have just had the abortion.

Asafum, I don't know you, but I am almost certain the world is a better place with you in it.

Hope you encounter a nice autumn breeze (assuming from the instance) or a nice whatever you like this week. Despite, I agree, the world being a bit of a hole in general.

Me, I've been enjoying the sun on the leaves this spring.

Kind regards, This Australian anon

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[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 254 points 1 day ago (15 children)

Don't worry, Republicans will solve this by banning abortion and birth control nationwide!

They are always thinking of the children.

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