I got diagnosed with ADHD, BPD, and autism. Then promptly lost my health insurance so I can't actually, you know, do anything about the above.
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I spent a lot of time with my now wife and met my best friends
I grew bitter and resentful towards people who complained about how hard it was to work from home and all the downtime they had while I had to trudge into “critical” work everyday for low pay.
That does suck, I also grew bitter and resentful to all the people with families being like “oh I got fit and healthy and spent time with my loved ones” while I went over 3 months without a single face to face conversation with anyone…
My cousin's wife divorced him after 6 months to move to her home country. Her stated reason was that during lockdown, she was isolated from her friends and family, and she couldn't handle being alone again.
It was hard on all of us but...uh...what does she think the rest of us single people did?
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I realized im Trans :3
I started transitioning 2 years before the pandemic, but it was still nice to be at home and not having to deal with people in person. Lots of people were and still are not very accepting of my transition.
I got bottom surgery about a year into the pandemic, that was, well a really brutal time because I also had bedbugs, moved, and returned to work in the same 6 week timeframe
A shutdown very well spent!
The full remote time during the pandemic allowed me to slowly update my profile pic for work until people started asking me what my pronouns were.
I was getting ready to come out to my sister in like late 2021, she had a really bad motorcycle accident and we were catching up and it seemed like the right time to tell her.
then she started talking about how a near death experience made her start re-evaluating some things, and then she came out to me and it was the fucking spiderman pointing meme. Both of us moved to WFH after covid hit so the timing makes sense, but it was such a wonderful coincidence.
I knew someone at university with a twin sibling. One was afab and the other was amab. Both came out as trans. We used to joke that instead of getting top / bottom surgery, they should just get head transplants :-)
Samesies, fren!
Fren :3
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Where's the "I started half a dozen hobbies and projects and didnt really stick to any of them" character?
Probably at !adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com 🤷
Though tbf, we also tend to do that when there's no shutdown 😁
hm. i should book that appointment some time eh
Can you book one for me, too? I've been telling myself to do that for over a year now.
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I got drunk a lot and called it "getting into making cocktails"
And now people say I have a problem. I don’t have a problem. You have a problem.
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I worked a ton of overtime and bought two luxury watches.
I always struggle with the "shutdown" timeframe. Partly because I have a shit sense of time, but mostly because nothing really changed for me.
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I work in retail so the only thing that changed for me during the pandemic was my level of anxiety.
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After years of being told teleworking was an impossbility, I was sent home to work and didn't even miss an hour on my timesheet.
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Oh my gosh, I had 2 kids, went back to college, rocketed my fledgling IT career forward and gained a mortgage during the pandemic. Granted I probably would've done all those things without the pandemic, but many of the pandemic era policies helped make each of those steps much easier than they normally would have been
Can someone ELI5 me the whole furry thing? Is this a community, is this a sexual thing? Is it an American thing?
ELI5
Furries are people who enjoy dressing up as or creating characters based on anthropomorphic animals, which are animals that have human-like traits such as walking on two legs, talking, or wearing clothes. These characters might be foxes, wolves, cats, or any other animal but with a personality or appearance that feels human-like.
Some furries create artwork, write stories, or role-play as these characters online, while others might dress up in costumes called "fursuits" to bring their characters to life in the real world. It’s a hobby and a community that’s mostly about creativity, imagination, and expressing yourself through these animal characters.
Is this a community, is this a sexual thing?
It can be either or both. I think for the most part it is community though. For some it starts as one and then expands into the other. For me it really is a lot about self discovery & self expression, SFW & NSFW, and makes me feel more connected to the world.
Or to put it in mature comic form: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/furry/
Is it an American thing?
No, European here with quite some insight. I think the map in the other post is slightly misleading, as bigger countries like the US have more conventions than smaller countries is kind of obvious.
If you have more questions, feel free to ask 😊 I will do my best to offer my perspective on this.
ofc. Furries are crestive people who enjoy art/litterature/etc. about anthromorphic animals(like werewolves!). A lot of us have our own characters/personas that we create as a avatar of ourselves or to express our creativity and aspects of our identity on a character. This is called a fursona. Now since the only criteria is to enjoy anthromorphic animals(aka furries) there is a lot of range. A lot of us enjoy dressing up as our characters on furcons like people who dress up as their favorite character at comicon. And this interest in furries/anthromorphic amimals/werewolfesque characters can be sexual too for a lot of people. (of course this doesn't have to be) It is just a very big welcoming community of creatives and fans of anthromorphic characters. Hope this helps
re “is it an american thing,” someone else will have to field the rest of your question
counterpoint, America is big, has atrocious public transport, and though furries that can afford suits can probably also afford flights, there's plenty who cannot afford either, or just pick one
It's for the safety of IT departments everywhere that furries' need for travel is limited
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Compare with a GDP per capita map. I'm not an economist, but it appears furries are wealth 📈
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Am not a furry, and would also love an explanation. I mean, I ain't knocking whatever it is that gets someone through this world. It can be a very hard, very cruel place, and it dressing up as a electric blue armadillo makes someone happy, and allows them to find people they vibe with, I'm super happy for them. But dagnabbit, I'd really love to understand it. Haha
Also, I know 2 Australian furries and 1 swiss furry, so I'm guessing not an American thing.
I approve of an electric blue armadillo fursona. Would probably look pretty cool actually
That was my thought process. "what's the coolest animal/color combo?" Obviously electric blue armadillo. It's like a little knight in armor, but electric blue, and looks deceptively cuddly
Believe it or not this is exactly how most furries make their fursona
Also, I've just realized, armadillos aren't furry. Can a non furry animal be someone's fursona? (That's the term, right?) Or is there another term? A... Skinny? Shelly?
Yeah, definitely. Furry encompasses basically anything that's a non-human anthropomorphic creature. I've seen fursonas based on birds, sharks, dolphins, turtles, rhinos, dinos, frogs, hippos, orcas, dragons, reptiles, plant creatures... hell, there are alien species like sergals and avalis, anthro/machine hybrids like protogens, and even entirely robotic characters.
It's just called furry because furred species are the most common, and the original community that splintered off from sci-fi conventions in the 70s and 80s and grew through fanzines pre-Internet largely used furred species for their characters. ("Fun" fact, the early community had a lot of skunk characters, which is why one of the first derogatory terms for furries was "skunkfucker.")
That's interesting! That's for the info!
Well, shit, am I having a literal "this better not awaken anything in me" moment? Lol
Honestly, don't stress yourself out over it, and keep an open mind. It might not be your cup of tea, and that's perfectly fine--there undoubtedly is a large sexual aspect to furry, and lots of folks (especially folks who are cisgender, heterosexual, have a less relaxed view about sexuality, etc.--not to say that you can't be a straight male furry, but there are a LOT of gay/bi furries) may find it to be a dealbreaker. Ultimately, furry has its roots in the nerd and geek communities, back when being nerdy or geeky was something to be bullied over, and it still shows it today.
Furry is a community that has a disproportionate number of LGBT+ folks, neurodivergent folks (especially people on the ADHD/autism spectrum), and other marginalized groups. Among many things, this means it revels in being proudly and unabashedly weird, both as a celebration of itself and as a defense mechanism against becoming overwhelmed by the kinds of business interests that would love nothing more than to push out all the sexuality and weirdness to provide a safe space for advertisers to shovel their slop down our throats.
If that sounds like something you'd enjoy being a part of, then I'd suggest checking out some places like the furry_irl subreddit, looking up streamers under the furry tag on Twitch (Skaifox, WhiskeyDing0, etc.), maybe make an account on FurAffinity, and look up furmeets or conventions in your area you can attend. You might not like it, or you might find yourself joining the best community I've ever been part of.
I was more joking than anything. I'm probably not going to get deep into it, if for no other reason that I am deeply uncomfortable with being... Like... Visible, or seen, or existing when people know I'm existing, and I don't want to have to explain a large purchase for an Armadillo head to my mom. Lol
But also, I am very much so not straight, and only nominally cisgendered most of the time. Lol. And my shrink thinks I'm probably somewhere on the spectrum, so there's that, too. Lol. I'm not opposed to kink or sexual aspects of a group. I've been known to be a bit freaky when I manage to crawl out of my Hermitage for the day. Lol. But conventions and groups and, like, people just aren't my thing most of the time, y'know?
I mean, you don't have to go full-blown fursuit and conventions if you don't want to. Most furries never actually bother with fursuiting--speaking from personal experience, it's hot as shit (especially outdoors or in summer), you can barely see or hear anything, and if you wear glasses they're prone to getting knocked off your nose or fogging up so badly that you can't see anything. Many fursonas exist exclusively in artwork or stories--either commissioned or self-drawn--and even that's optional.
You don't even have to actively participate in the community if you don't want to. Many furries are passive members who just follow artists, lurk in streams or group chats, occasionally leave a comment on a submission, and generally exist in furry spaces. Literally the only requirement to be a furry is to say you're a furry!
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One possible reason from many is that it's fun to not be human because humans aren't so great to each other. Look into the link between autism and identifying as non-human (there are multiple ways of doing so).
Signed, an autistic being who does not feel emotionally attached to being a human, but is not a furry.
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Some people started businesses. Some people turned their entire house into a Lego garden.
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