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A caring mother..?
Very caring indeed
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As soon as I read the title to this, I thought "here we go again", but I'm amazed there are actual helpful comments and only one reference to the arms broken/mom bit
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Mankind knew they could not change society, so instead of reflecting on themselves, they blamed the Beasts
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I don't know why, but this moment of self realization is the best thing in this thread.
It's like a gingerbread man in the gingerbread house comic moment
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Jerk your buddy off for him since he can't do that right now
Nothing says you care like a no-homo handie.
A bro-job, for good measure
OP never said they were a man. Maybe it's a no-hetero handie.
Let's maybe just leave that to his wife. Or his mother.
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Cleaning service, any house services really, freezer meals, or other little to no prep foods, offer to play with their kid from time to time, help them relieve stress by unburdening them (by taking on chores), instead of providing an escape (video games)
Edit: not dissing video games, but a young one and another on the way of a lot of stress already.
I hadn't even considered cleaning services or meal kits. Those are a fantastic idea! I'll reach out to his wife and get her input.
Iβm constantly overwhelmed with no broken arms, and just 1 day a week for someone to come in and βreset the messβ is incredible. You should probably talk with his wife and have the βthis person is giving you time to do things that prioritize your familyβ talk, because some people can feel cleaning service is admitting failure in keeping up their home. (Also her talking with the kid about not treating this as an excuse to be messy isnβt bad either)
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Thankfully you're not his mom.
explaining the source, TLDR mom 'performed deeds' for son with broken arms.
I've broken a lot of bones.
Get him stuff that helps the family so he doesn't feel useless and guilty. That's number 1. It's awful to feel like a burden to everyone, and that doesn't go away no matter what is said to you.
Second, stretch bands to put around limbs and pull. It feels amazing. You don't realise how little you move and how little muscle you use while subconsciously "nursing" a broken bone.
Something insanely complex that involves both arms to use or solve. It's just funny as shit. But also, I swear I recover faster.
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Harmonica holder
My robot friend can do anything!
i would get him a cheap violin and a bag of individually wrapped candy
You don't give your friend a thing, you give his poor wife something. A bidet goes so long and pregnancy itself is hard.
Seriously: Offer her to do some chores like shopping, gift them some take-away gift cards,etc. The situation will put a serious strain on their relationship,
Gag gift. Since he broke both arms, and wrists, he hopefully can still hold something lightweight.
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In all seriousness, if you want to be helpful the best thing you can do is spend some time with him in person. He can tell you what he needs, and you can show him you care. If I got seriously crippled like this I probably would start thinking that none of my friends will make time for me because I have become a burden. Prove that nasty self-talk wrong!
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Firstly, my sympathies for your friend's horrible situation
Secondly, don't let him near anyone's mother.
Me who is 51, active boarder (skate, snow, surf, downhill) since the mid eighties, and has never broken a bone, reading this:
I miss r/neverbrokeabone
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Oh no.
Can I ask how that happened?
I think what he and his family needs is help with chores. How well you can help with that depends on how far away you are.
He locked himself out of his house and crawled up on his roof to try to get in a window, but all of the windows were locked. He tried to get back down and the ladder toppled. He fell 12 ft and had curled into a ball to protect his head and torso, but his arms were shattered. He's lucky he got away without a concussion or broken ribs.
Then you should absolutely add one of those rock hide-a-key things to your list just for a laugh.
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I'd say audio books, but you can get them the Libby app and a library card and they'll have tens of thousands available for free.
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So depending on how much hand dexterity he has left with the broken wrists I suggest a back scratcher and one of those reacher grabber arms.
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A bidet
A glass of milk. Might get that 3 months down to 2 months and 29 days.
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Juggling balls.
Then spend a lot of time hanging out with him while he recovers.
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