if she will go for it get a 100 pack of rubber or silicon rings (dollor store) they look nice from the distance strangers should look and no worry about lost rings and no safety worries.
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Wow, tough crowd. At no point did you say you were looking at typical diamonds but you're still getting jumped. My interpretation is that you're not interested in mined diamonds and are already aware of the massive ethical issues.
I can't tell you if she actually wants an expensive ring with a big rock, despite what that other comment assures you. That's something you have to determine. My SO wanted something pretty and durable, not expensive. She meant it. She also picked a stone in her favorite color. I think it's flanked by small diamonds for that sparkle but it was only $350 at a department store. I guess at this point I should mention why she did all the shopping and why I don't really know: I proposed with a paper ring and quoted Taylor Swift in doing so. Rather than take a guess and potentially be way off from what she's been looking at on her own, she was able to choose it herself. Some people may be upset that you didn't do all the traditional work, but that's between you and your SO and for you to determine acceptability. A woman with established desires (beyond price) in a ring has likely already done a ton of shopping.
If she tends to be rough with her hands, diamonds are still the most durable stone available. It will take most stones a long time to be visibly scratched, but it happens - especially around sand. That also means if she loses jewelry, the ring may not be around long enough to matter.
I wouldn't recommend silver since it's softer and tarnished a little faster than the other options.
As far as cut, you're really getting into an opinionated area. Some people like the traditional cartoon cut, some like an older oval, some a rectangle, etc. It depends on her style and how loud she wants her jewelry to be.
It's a very variable topic. The only thing I can say, and this applies to many things, is that when you get down to the final 5ish options, no one else will know what you chose between. You'll forget too. They'll probably all be nearly identical if you were to describe them on paper without a picture. There's no such thing as perfect but you always come to simply accept something for being what it is. I went through this with dozens of paint chips when remodeling a house. Once the walls are painted, your guests will never know nor care how long you spent choosing between G305-03 and G306-03.
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I got one that has another kind of stone as the main stone with cubic zirconias around it. That sort of arrangement isn't too expensive, and more interesting than a diamond.
Don't do a plain silver band. They tarnish and cause irritation. The band should be either a metal that doesn't tarnish, or coated in one.
I have Moissy ring and it's gorgeous. I'd have been pissed to get something that cost more. It's really a pretty stone, and durable as fuck.
You will need an idea of her taste in jewelry, ask her literally to send you pictures of what she likes. I think a solitaire is best and that is way more affordable if it's not diamond, or at least that was true when we were getting engaged.
Don't listen to commercials.... 3 months salary as a guideline .... My Ass!
By now you should know her tastes. Or just ask her about it. She's the one who's gonna wear it.
Yo! I will tell you what I did. I found a standard ring. Nothing fancy. Just a solitaire (ring with one rock on the top). The key part was that I went with a company that allowed trade ups. Meaning that I could return the ring for full price after the purchase as long as I was using the money to buy a more expensive ring. So I did that. Bought the normal standard ring, did the proposal, then went to get a new ring by trading it in so my partner could get one they absolutely loved.
IMO lab grown vs real diamonds are a non issue. They all look and act the same aside from having a laser etch.
For gold silver platinum, up to you. Again, you can always go standard and trade up (as long as the company does that).
And that laser etch basically not visible unless you’re looking at it through magnification
Some companies laser etch and track their natural diamonds, too. It's to distinguish them from blood diamonds.
I used a sapphire. I'm a ceramic engineer, and sapphire is just alumina, so I think it's cool, and you can get basically any color you want.
Alternatively you could consider something that isn't a ring. My fiancee is very cat coded, I gave her a gold cat bell that she loves and wears all the time. Got it from Mene dot Com which is a bonus because they're more ethical and transparent about their gold and pay which is something my fiancee is into.
You want a plain ring to go with your plain fiancée, is that how it is?
Next thing you know she'll be dreaming of a guy with wavy hair and chestnut eyes.