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[–] kernelle@lemmy.world 25 points 2 months ago (3 children)

That's why I always tell people to stop 'looking', that's just desperate and off-putting. Friendships will turn into relationships if its meant to be.

[–] stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 months ago (2 children)

these are all great stories but what if it doesn't happen and you stay single for life

[–] turtletracks@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

If that's your worry, you never stopped "looking"

[–] stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

How so? I'm not "looking" at all. I'm just seeing my friends once in a while and occasionally making new friends. Outside of that I'm just focusing on my studies. I've stopped caring about dating for a long time. Of course that doesn't mean I've stopped wishing to meet someone.

[–] kernelle@lemmy.world -1 points 2 months ago (2 children)

That's the thing, it will work 100% guaranteed. As long as you're open to new friendships. Will the first person fall in love with you? Probably not. The second? Also probably not. That's the beauty of it, you'll either have an SO or a ton of friends, and having a friend of the opposite gender is like wingman paradise.

[–] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

No it won't. I tried that for 30 years with no success.

For some people, if you don't put in effort you will not get any of those things.

[–] kernelle@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

It will, maintaining friendships and especially new ones requires a lot of effort. I'm saying when you meet people you don't think they'll be your SO, but rather a new friend. That's now an entirely different conversation, one which has a much more relaxed nature, increasing the chances of a potential relationship.

[–] stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Yeah well I already have a ton of friends. I just think you can't claim it will work 100% for everyone, because you can't prove that.

[–] kernelle@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

You're missing the point by like a mile, you have to be open to new ones. Relationships don't just appear out of nowhere.

[–] stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I am. I'm just saying it's not because you got lucky that this will work out for everyone, so it's not 100%

[–] kernelle@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Oh no you're mistaken, I got incredibly lucky. But after more than a decade I can confidently say that I've never seemed more desirable since I have nothing to prove. That confidence is what I'm talking about, I've seen many people try hard and fail. I've seen many more people try less and succeed.

[–] stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

ok so if you agree you got very lucky then why were you saying it will work 100%

[–] kernelle@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I stick to my word, it will work for you, 100% guaranteed. Be open and approach each interaction as if your meeting a friend. You'll get there bud

[–] stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

sure bro I will get back to you in 10 years😂

[–] kernelle@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

"Victory and defeat happens in our heads first", good luck and I'm counting on it

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

The story above happened because someone made a move.

[–] kernelle@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Make the move! You'll know and they'll know when the moment is right, but don't rush it!

[–] AlolanYoda@mander.xyz 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I'm glad I'm not searching for romantic advice in this thread because if I were I'd be so confused.

Should I search for a friendship instead of a relationship? Should I make a move? Should I make a move on my friends?!

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 2 points 2 months ago

Do you think your friends are as cute as buttons?

[–] meyotch@slrpnk.net 1 points 2 months ago

Tina Belcher is my spiritual guide on this issue. Nothing wrong with a little erotic friend-fiction becoming reality.