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Well. I typed something into my search bar and an instagram link of this girl who my ex is friends with popped up, didn't do a good job at deleting it, and before I know it, I see that my ex has launched a music duo with the girl he told me not to worry about. Are they dating? Probably. The way he looks at her. The way they look at each other.
I feel exactly how I did right after we broke up, and I thought I'd come far. I feel so fucking stupid.
I have to cook lunch and do uni shit, but I feel guttered. At least this will help me move forward.
Diving down into the rabbit hole won’t do you any favours.
I don’t know how you can move on from this but just that you felt a lot more strongly about him than how he felt about you.
I know you wanted to be happy but it doesn’t have to be with someone who wasn’t into you, it wouldn’t be worth it.
A photo/movie is one instant snapshot of a moment. That’s all it is and you don’t need to add more into the narrative of it to make yourself feel bad about it.
You do have to accept that he wasn’t the one but there’s plenty of others out there who would be a better match for you. It’ll take time so go slowly.
don't type "something" into search bars
also, if you loved him be happy he is happy
now it's your turn to be happy 😊 hugs
Yep I won't be doing that again.
I am happy that he's happy, even though he hurt me. But it's just the whole why couldn't he be happy with me thing that's getting to me.
I want to be happy too.
I've dated plenty of lovely women where we weren't right for each other and it was better that we split up. Nothing necessarily wrong, just not compatible.
If he didn't want you, it's his loss. And if he was lying to you, he's not worth pining over. (Yeah, I know, easier said than done).
Letting go of him will at least leave a space in your life to be happy in and of yourself, and hopefully allow someone in who'll bring you joy.
Now, do you have any physical mementos of the relationship? If so, is there anywhere you can burn them? Speaking from experience, that does help.
@LowExperience2368 @Seagoon_
One day, he may type something in the search bar and miss you. No guarantees, though. Solo time gives space to work out what makes you happy. 🤔 new hobby. New friends. New interest. Self care. Counselling. Metamorphosis. New butterfly 🦋 ✨️
Block both of them, this will just lead you back into the mental quagmire.
Don’t worry about it. From the sounds of things she might just be the latest girl and end up in your situation too. Even if they stay together there are no guarantees things are happy behind closed doors.