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[–] MindTraveller@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Using ableist slurs on bigots doesn't actually help. It just increases the amount of bigotry in the world and makes minorities feel even more unsafe. You can't "target" an ableist slur to only insult the person who deserves it. It inherently attacks the undeserving as well.

[–] BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 42 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Narcissist isn’t a slur, and narcissism isn’t a disability. It’s a personality disorder. There is a difference.

Stop spreading misinformation.

[–] MindTraveller@lemmy.ca 0 points 3 months ago (3 children)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

It is often comorbid with other mental disorders and associated with significant functional impairment and psychosocial disability.[1]

It's a disability.

[–] BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 3 months ago

“Associated with” psychosocial disability. That means it can occur with disabilities, not that it is one.

Because it isn’t.

[–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 18 points 3 months ago

Hey, guys, what if we made "asshole" a protected class?

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Literally every source, authority and dsm imagineable distinguishes nacissm and npd as separate things but sure, you, rando on the internet are the only correct one.

[–] magic_smoke@links.hackliberty.org 28 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I might be out of touch here, but I'm confused as to what part of that was ableist? Not trying to be an asshole, just trying to figure shit out.

[–] BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

None of it. This person regularly spreads misinformation like this and claims anything they disagree with to be slurs or ableism.

[–] MindTraveller@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 months ago (2 children)

N*rcissist is a slur against people with NPD. It originates in pop culture with self help scams that told people their abusive friends and family had NPD. Also the etymology of the word begins with a Greek guy who was put to death by the gods for being asexual, so yikes.

[–] amanda@aggregatet.org 18 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Congratulations on having one of the worst takes I’ve ever seen (the one about narcissus).

[–] MindTraveller@lemmy.ca 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Anyone who thinks a 16 year old deserved to die because he wouldn't date or sex anyone is probably a pedo.

Anyone who thinks "gods" "cursed" someone obviously needs training wheels.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm reading up to try and understand a bit more where you're coming from. Do you have any links that expand on this? Ableism is 100% unacceptable here, and I do understand how "narcissist" can be used as a pejorative or to dismiss someone who doesn't have NPD. I just hadn't heard it referred to as a slur before. So yeah if you could point me in the direction of some more info I'd appreciate that.