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My girlfriend has ADHD and has is usually procrastinating studying (she has a big exam in a few months), is there anything I can do to help her with this without being prying? (dormi.zone)

submitted 4 months ago by Servais@dormi.zone to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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[–] BearOfaTime@lemm.ee 13 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

Lots of good ideas here, but don't forget to discuss these ideas with her first.

I'd recommend reading ADHD and Adults, it's a good intro to how ADHD works differently in adults than children.

Then maybe talk about her difficulties with her, and ask how you can help. Work to understand her perspective first, what she finds difficult, what she finds frustrating.

Then pick one thing, together, that you can help with. You need to work as a team, taking on challenges together (this is sort of relationships 101, it's a team thing).

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Thank you for the book suggestion, it's on my radar.

Then maybe talk about her difficulties with her, and ask how you can help. Work to understand her perspective first, what she finds difficult, what she finds frustrating.

We discussed about it earlier this weekend. In summary, she finds hard to study because it still seems "far away in the future" (it's in early September), and on the other side, she also feels like even if she studies a lot for it, she will never feel ready.

She has already failed that exam in the past.

[–] BottleOfAlkahest@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I can't figure out if she has even asked for his help on this, if she hasn't then perhaps he should just back off until she does.

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 1 points 4 months ago

Hello, I added some context in the comment below.