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So I’m seemingly stuck wanting to medically transition, but perpetually fearful of doing so. I have the misfortune of living in Texas, as I have for most of my life, with no feasible way to leave any time soon, as well as having mostly unsupportive family - my parents especially…

As it currently stands, I can pass as cis with little to no effort. I fucking hate doing so, but I fear for my safety and treatment otherwise. This is the same reason - aside from money - that I have yet to pursue any HRT. I’m simply terrified of losing my ability to “blend in” and being targeted.

Has anyone else dealt with this, and if so, how have you managed/overcome it?

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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I can't really talk to the realities of transitioning in Texas, but I can say that HRT won't be changing anything right away. It's a slow process, and whilst you will eventually end up at a point you likely can't hide, that is months to years down the track, with lots of time to adjust your course.

You've got to do what is best for you, and first and foremost, that is your survival. But that doesn't mean transition (medical or othwerwise) has to be all or nothing.

[–] BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago

You make a good point.. I guess I hadn’t really thought of that. Though I really haven’t figured out when or where I’m gonna go.. Honestly afraid nowhere in the US will be safe in a few years, with the way things have been going..