Anyway, here's you straight up refusing to understand the concept of white privilege:

My genuine reaction to everything you've said:

Have an extremely shitty day, and let's not talk again. I have even less respect for you now that when we've started -- pretty impressive tbh since I started at zero so -- achievement unlocked??, and you've confirmed all my suspicions about you by admitting that you think casual queerphobia is okay and that we queers are just "making a big deal out of nothing."

I can't block your ass because I'm a mod, but I won't be responding in any meaningful way going forward.

SHitty people all call their friends queerphobic slurs in both English and Spanish, I've seen it.

It doesn't excuse it, and it doesn't make their language and behavior less queerphobic. In fact, the fact that they use it so casually is just more evidence of how deeply entrenched queerphobia is, and the fact that they're willing to continue to normalize this in society with such callous disgregard for us LGBTQIA+ people does not reflect well on their character.

Sounds to me like you just surround yourself with 4chan tier people. Yikes.