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Curious to see if this is a "me" thing or not. so does anyone else when they make a new mate become like low key obsessed for a bit? or not obsessed but like, the social anxiety just dial up a couple of notches? just for like the first couple of days of the proper mateship. Then it always settles down. Like every time your phone buzzes your like "Oh, I hope its X person". and when they take a bit to reply you go "Oh, did I message them too many times? did I say something weird?" when you know they're probs just busy.
Honestly it's been so long since I made new friends I can't really remember.
For sure man. I don't really have family so friendships are really important to me. I defs get all in my head about it when I'm connecting with someone new
same boat hey, makes friendships so much more important.
Exactly man. It's hard to explain to people who don't know what it's like.
ABSOLUTELY! people think your intense. And its hard to explain to someone "No, I just feel more strongly about you than you probs do about me". Still stings when they kind of prove that though hey.
It's tough man. For me, I generally expect nothing from other people, which helps temper my excitement to a degree.
In a way, it's pessimistic, but after some of my experiences, its less shitty to think that way.
Yes. Right now, in fact
I'm a slow boil. I'll be interacting with someone for ages before I suddenly realise one day they've made the move from acquaintance to friend.
So, no. For me it's more a sudden realisation after a bit. I'm reminded somewhat of the way my wife and I started dating here.
Not just a you thing. Made a couple of good mates from my gym and texting anxiety was through the roof. Turns out they felt the same.
making mates as an adult is HARD hey
It's completely normal