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Well, then you have folks like my brother who was Kid B, but doesn't have ADHD and was just a lazy fuck who didn't see the point of schoolwork. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
The average school is going to be built for the average kid to pass. That means more points are going to be in the day-to-day work rather than the big tests. So if your class has 500 points available and only 100 of those are tests, then yeah, you're going to fail when you only get 100/500 points.
However, if you have a kid B, then it's worth looking into if your area has alternate programs from the average curriculum and seeing if they would work for your kid.
I am a firm believer that the phenomenon of "just a lazy fuck" doesn't exist. I don't know your brother, but I know the terms in which you refer to him were used on me pretty much just like that. And the reasons why those things were happening didn't come to light until long after the era in which the terms were used. Even after the first couple diagnoses, my IEP (sheet teachers have that says what they have to accommodate for you) didn't say anything that really related to any of the problems I was actually literally having. The cruel irony is that it said I needed longer on tests, which I never needed and was the only thing I was even successful at. Lazy is just a way to stereotype people who's problems you've given up on.
You know, it's not the "lazy" people that are causing the world's problems.
To add to this point slightly, I also did literally say out loud many times that the school work is dumb and I refused, if that makes me sound more like your brother. That is because at even younger ages, I'd been punished and abused out of using the phrase "I can't" for things they've seen me do at least one time before. Things escalated and got much more harsh when I tried to say it, so I was forced to switch to lies, elitist posturing, emotional manipulation, anything that would end the interaction without "I can't." Eventually I forgot that I can't and started believing a subset of my lies.