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[–] daellat@lemmy.world 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I feel like signals of interest are being conflated with Consent/approval of a date here

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

No, it's not. If I'm talking to someone and they look disinterested, that's not a "hell yes." If they're standing there while their four-top is waiting on refills, that's not a "hell yes."

A "hell yes" is them asking me questions, or sharing a relatable story. It's them smiling and looking at me when I talk. A "hell yes" is me asking "would you like to talk alone" and her saying "hell yes."

Get used to being alone. Learn to love its freedom and spontaneity, and then find someone who's better than that who says "hell yes."

[–] daellat@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Well I'm just saying I've had not hell yes signals turned into a hell yes date very quickly when I asked them out. Of course I always ask them very open ended so they have all the chance to say no but I got a "yes of course!"

Sometimes people are just a bit shy or afraid, I know I probably give of pretty meh signals even if I'm crushing hard.

I agree it's very important not to fool yourself but sometimes you gotta ask to know for sure and I don't think it's that black and white all the time

E: love a good Convo down vote no reply.. weak sauce.