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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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There's not really a guide that can tell you what you want, that's up to you to decide.
Most of transition is just getting used to and getting better at living your gender, that just comes naturally with time and practice. This includes things like makeup, wardrobe, mannerisms and speech patterns for example.
Obviously, you can focus on one of these things at a time, like practice a lot of makeup or do voice training, and that is a very good start of you are new to it, as this sort of focued approach helps you get the basics down. But once you have that, it is, as i said, mostly a matter of slowly improving over time.
When it comes to medical stuff, there are a lot of options and you can choose which ones, if any, you want to pursue. Options include things like bottom surgery, laser hair removal, breast augmentation, tracheal shave, facial feminization surgery and so on. Now, i, for example, believe that i'll be perfectly happy with only laser hair removal and bottom surgery, so think of this as more of a pick and choose thing, where you only do the ones that you think you need.
About planning. You said you've been at it for almost two years, so you should have a good feeling of how the amount of change you had feels over this period of time. Maybe a good approach would be to think about the next two years: are you happy with the pace that you've been going at? Would you like more changes faster, or perhaps even slow down a little? You can balance your transition around what pace feels right for you, again, transition is a highly individual thing that nobody can tell you how to do exactly. Keep in mind that surgeries are hard ro plan ahead because of waiting lists and there's of course the question of money and/or insurance (i for one have been wanting to do laser hair removal for over half a year now but my insurance is gatekeeping me big time), as well as recovery periods that you have to plan around.
I apologize for the length of this comment but i hope it has been at least somewhat useful :)