Theoretically I can see somebody not being attracted to guys, as in masculine people, or just males, but still being turned on by penises as we see in OP's example. That person might not call themselves gay since they wouldn't want to be in a relationship with any guys, but might be interested in a hookup with a trans woman who still had their dick.

Maybe their is some nuance in what being gay is or there is room for another descriptor for this phenomenon.

Edit: reading below, this person might be hetero-romantic and homo-sexual.

[–] Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 2 points 8 months ago

Not judging or anything, i never cared who wanted to make love to whatever.

But he really wanted dudes. Women were "disgusting". whatever floats ones boat, but this is simply the definition of gay, if you like the term or not. It's just a word describing a preference. A dude just liking cocks on a dude's body and person and gender, then it's plain gay.

Guess in his case (my generation, we both being genx) it was just the typical upbringing that said gay=bad. Guess the shit stucks deeply, hence his cognitive dissonance and extreme adversity to gayness.