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[–] elfpie@beehaw.org 13 points 1 year ago (11 children)

There is an immense range of variation in female bodies, and obviously I can't cover all contingencies. While I hope that everyone can get something from this guide, when I make generalizations about what a female body "is," I'm talking about an average woman at a healthy weight: not much in the way of muscle mass, and curvy enough to be unmistakably female.

I’m trying to be very careful with my words here, because I don’t believe the author of the guide was. He talked about his personal experience, what he learned from it, and he was kind enough to organize and share everything. That’s all good. He also reinforces and disseminates harmful body issues. And that’s the part that bothered me from the guide’s tittle.

I’m a nonbinary man. I say that to inform my perspective in regards to the subject, where I’m coming from and my limitations. At this point in my life, I don’t have to pass, I have never had to worry about passing or having my identity invalidated by the way I look. I believe that passing is just something we do to be able to exist in society and that our goal should be expressing our identity the best way we can without being chained by societal expectations.

I didn’t want to be negative. I wanted to put a warning for those that would read the guide, but the more I read, the more I can’t recommend people dealing with any body related issues to read. I’ll leave it at that or it’ll become an attack with me quoting everything I find problematic or harmful.

[–] cadeje@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As a trans man, this is the guide I would have killed to have 10 years ago. I respectfully disagree with your take.

[–] StringTheory@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It was written 9 years ago in 2014…. Close to 10, but not quite!

[–] cadeje@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago

I just meant when I was younger I would have killed for it. I never came across it unfortunately.

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