ADHD

paperwork isn't consistent enough. Clerical stuff just shuts my brain down,

Tell me about it. I am exactly the same. And I had a boss that relentlessly dogged me about it. Which is what prompted me to go get checked.

Boring tasks are excruciating. Lack of consistency is really common. Because we are so dependent on external or emotional motivation. Even though we know we need to we can't force ourselves to do it or we make mistakes constantly. Even if others struggle to do boring tasks, for us it regularly causes problems like getting passed over for a raise or promotion. Others may get dinged once then buckle down and do better. But the buckle down part of our brain is a weakling :) so even though we know the consequences and we really really want to do the thing.. nothing happens.

There's a lot of emotional ick that goes along with having ADHD and facing boring tasks. I think, pure opinion, that there is a trauma response at play. We remember the awful feeling of being late or rushing at the last minute and associate that with the thing even though we know intellectually it might be easy and take five minutes or something.

You sort of gave to deal with a wall in front of you. Sort of talk or trick yourself into getting started.

Some ideas to try:

Instead of worrying about all the forms, or which is most important, just pick any form and work on it for like 1 minute. You may find this helps you bypass the wall and get started and then you can just kind of keep yourself going.

Another thing is to think of the first 1-3 super easy steps you would need to do to get started.

So instead of "oh shit I have to fill out 59 forms" it is... Ok step one I open web browser. Step 2, I open the forms app. Those are so easy. So why not just y'know do that. Opens app

"But ugh I don't remember all the numbers of all these damned forms SIGH" -- ok stop right there. You don't have to remember ALL of them or think about ALL the work to figure this out. Start small.

Just remember three places you might be able to find one number for one form. Bookmark. Scrap of paper on the desk. Some place in the app I can't remember. Now check each. Once you find the list you sigh from relief. Maybe that was the big blocker, that was the wall. And hell you've gotten this far, why not fill out that first form? Now you're rolling and feeling better.

Being well rested helps. Moderate exercise helps boost my mood and make me energized (as opposed to wiped out the rest of the day lol).

The meds aren't a silver bullet. They don't fix everything completely. You really have to work on these maladaptations with a specialist ideally. I am very glad I decided to spend the first year after diagnosis doing that before getting mediation. I am so, so glad I did. I personally feel it is learning these hacks to be better that are the main thing. The meds just make it a little easier to do that.

I experimented with ways to not forget due dates and appointments and tasks. I settled in on a few things that work ok for me. But it also takes diligence and I've gotten sloppy lately, tbh.

Anyway I told my boss I was seeing a life coach (no fucking way I was going to tell her I have ADHD because hardly anyone understands it and I don't want it held against me by her or anyone else). I worked on things and next review she was really impressed I had taken such steps to improve and I started to get my career back on track. The improvement in my career over the last decade has been dramatic, at least for a guy with ADHD who got a "meh" review and who has always failed to reach his full potential.

It doesn't truly matter how you measure up to others. Focus on comparing yourself to your past self. Are you better than you were? Then give yourself full kudos. Take that W. Those who don't have it don't know how fucking hard it is day in and day out to climb those many walls or deal with the crushed self esteem, anxiety of fucking up (yet again) and so on.

Oh random thought (lol) emotional dysregulation is also a common symptom. Being too enthusiastic, talking too much, easily frustrated and showing it.

That goes along with maybe missing social cues sometimes that people are uncomfortable with what you're doing. It's like the dial is turned to 11. For me, it is mostly on mute (masking my real self) to keep from being "too much" for others.

It is kind of exhausting rarely being able to just enjoy being myself, without judgement. Which is why I greatly prefer to hang out with other oddballs.