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It's the complaining about it--asserting your correctness to everyone around you--that makes someone the asshole.
Everyone always thinks they're right. If you didn't think you were right to act a certain way, you would do something different! Acknowledging afterwards that you were wrong and made a mistake is what makes someone tolerable.
I don't know about that. I certainly think I'm right when I do something, but I have a healthy dose of imposter syndrome, so I tend to do a lot of testing before hand, and when something goes wrong I assume it's my fault until I can prove otherwise.
It always seems strange to me when people need to be proven wrong. Usually when I'm wrong, I'm the person who figures it out, because I always assume problems are my fault.
The weird thing is, this leads to an enormous amount of trust in me by others, which I find exceedingly uncomfortable.