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Pro-LGBT
Pro-NB
Anti-xe
Singular 'they' is right there
Tbh i'de prefer if a third, more neutral singular pronoun, whether it's "xe" or something else was more common. It's a pain in the ass when i'm referring to someone who uses they/them, or who's gender i don't know, and a group of people.
"They went with them to the store" there are now two "they/thems" in this sentence, and while this isn't a great example, there are times where it gets really ambiguous and unclear exactly what i'm trying to communicate
Hell i'd be down for separate singular pronouns for nonbinary people and people who's gender i don't know
Why can't they and xe be used depending on what someone prefers?
They can be. I mean, I don't think xe is inherently less legitimate as a word. But I do think it's ugly and unnecessary, as are neopronouns in general. I have similarly pedantic opinions on things like 'irregardless'.
If someone asked me to use 'xe' I would out of courtesy, but I would much prefer we all come together and agree that the singular they is the best choice for the job.
Cringe. Neopronouns are based as fuck, actually.
Honestly, that's the best way to live IMO. You don't necessarily have to understand something or adopt it for yourself, but it literally costs you nothing to show someone the basic respect of addressing them how they wish to be addressed.
My best man came out as trans a few years after our wedding. It took me a while to get her new name down pat, but every time I messed up I corrected myself immediately. The other day when she sent me a picture to show her progress on HRT I told her how happy I was at the progress my maid of honor had made and how much happier she looked. It's that simple: just call someone by their preferred name/pronouns.
May I ask why do people need them? /gen