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Looks like they are back together or something. Lots of videos of them both recently including one released 22 hours ago of them going out to eat together.
A few months ago he had a video where he was vacationing with Cindy too.
In the description there is follow up video as well:
https://youtube.com/watch?v=2D7y1Is0di8
It’s like 10m long and haven’t been bothered to watch all of it. I guess they just mended their relationship after so many years. I guess at a certain point in life you just say fuck it and go back to what you know.
There is definitely a degree of complacency with the familiar. That said, the guy reviews booze. Booze and relationships can be trouble lol. People say and do dumb shit no matter how “sober” they think they are.
Or you've been abused for so long as well as isolated from all your friends and family, that you're easily manipulated back in to a situation you('ve been made to) feel you can never escape.
You got all that from a scotch review? Damn
Peaty and isolating, with just a touch of domestic violence.
4.5 stars.
First of all, let me introduce you to this little word:
it means one could be, or another could be. It is not an assertion.
Now to the point:
Imagine that, a guy who centres his entire life around booze to a degree that he prioritises recording a booze review for an audience of zero over interacting with his partner that is walking out on their relationship, is setting of some red flags.
Also imagine that - people who have suffered domestic abuse can recognise those red flags from miles away while those who haven't sit there and smugly brush them off. I bet plenty of the people here also say shit like "if it was that bad she would have left" which is why I made my comment explaining why victims of abuse either don't leave or leave and then go back.
But hey, it's all jokes to those of you who think this shit will never impact you personally.
okay
Wow, you are significantly insufferable.
Or two people mended their relationship. Nobody is perfect. For all we know that review could have been after his tipping point. People do weird shit when they feel they can't take anymore. Like reviewing whiskey while your wife is leaving.
Lol ok. Or you're just annoying as hell dude
Was it a stunt?
It’s not a stunt. Some people just make better friends than partners. If there was no animosity during the break up, there’s no reason they can’t remain friends.
Not saying this is the case here because I don't know, but on the other hand of that abusers are really good at manipulating their way back in to relationships, so unfortunately that's also an option.
I don't think it's particularly helpful or even healthy to speculate about abuse in every conceivable scenario. The guy's a whisky aficionado who goes on frequent trips to distilleries and has uploaded and average of a whisky related video every other day for several years. You can see by the thumbnails a story of him growing a wall of whisky over the years. That factor alone is difficult to live with if you're not on the same wavelength as that person. It's not, however, an issue that would require you to burn bridges after separation.
You're not making the point you think you are, he clearly has an unhealth relationship with alcohol (and the woman in the video) and calling him an "aficionado" doesn't change that.
The person I replied to was the one who started speculating, and I added an alternative speculation, which seemed much more realistic to me. all things considered.
You are also speculating.
So fuck off with somehow getting upset over people bringing up the possibility of abuse because it makes you uncomfortable (and the reasons why are for you to examine with yourself).
You must be mistaken. I'm the one you originally replied to and I made no speculation. I said that the video isn't an act (it demonstrably isn't, having watched his channel for years), and that some people are better suited as friends than as romantic partners. In relationships that don't involve abuse or infidelity, it's common for former partners to be civil or even friendly to one another.
You know nothing about his relationship with alcohol, other than the fact that he has a Youtube channel where he reviews whisky. Having a collection of whisky is not evidence of substance abuse, just as me having a thousand books doesn't mean I have an unhealthy relationship with books.
None of this is making me uncomfortable. I have grandparents and parents who married young, grew up to have different priorities in life, and remained good friends afterwards. I've just got back from my baby brother's wedding where they all had an amazing time sharing a villa and having a party. I'm a happier, more mature person from having witnessed amicable breakups where people remain good friends afterwards.
You're the one who seems personally affected by someone eight years ago reviewing whisky and breaking up with their wife. The moment you see an ostensibly healthy continuing relationship, your first thought is abuse. That's on you. You may need to reflect on why that's your kneejerk reaction.
Nah seemed real
No.
Maybe she was packing for a vacation?
I needed to hear that, thanks!