cross-posted from: https://sopuli.xyz/post/6893359
this post was submitted on 12 Dec 2023
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We care because everybody deserves respect and to be taken seriously
I think you're responding to a troll (see comment history, they're stalking this meme and JAQing off)
You have a point, however no one seems to support it it seems...
We live in a confusing times.
Seems like you're the only one mixing the two from what I can see (and furthermore adding to your confusion by conflating sex and gender as well). Sex is often the preferred term when referring to biology (for instance, “in many species, members of the male sex are larger than those of the female sex”), while gender is the preferred word when referring to behavioral, cultural, and psychological traits (for instance, “young people more likely to challenge the gender norms they grew up with.”). Sexuality is ones orientation in terms of sexual and romantic attraction. So you can have a woman (gender) who was born with male sex parts (sex) who happens to be pansexual (sexual orientation).
The reason people "care" so much is because if someone tells you how they wish to be identified and referred to and you not only refuse to do so but go out of your way to misidentify them, it shows blatant disregard and lack of respect for them as a human being. If you don't care what people refer to you that's fine. But that's your personal choice and you are free to make it. Those who do care about what we refer to them as are likewise free to care. And while yes you have the freedom to not respect their request, it's an inherently degrading, dehumanizing, and downright anti-social act. You're going out of your way to make a big deal out of it and othering it rather than just using the terms people requested and moving the fuck on with your day.
Same. I can't understand, why does somebody wants to be called xim/xe or some other shit? For me it sounds just like a whim, but a fact is a fact: There are only two genders. (In this context, and my worldview, sex = gender)
If anyone feels offended, then just scroll past, I don't and I will not care.
But that's the whole thing about it...your worldview doesn't matter. Sex != Gender. You lot are just not intelligent enough to understand the difference and that makes you inherently defensive when it comes to the subject, which is why you react as any animal that perceives itself being attacked and lash out. But no one is attacking YOU by expressing themselves with full nuance. You just don't have the faculties to understand the difference so you paint with a wide brush.
Sex is often the preferred term when referring to biology (for instance, “in many species, members of the male sex are larger than those of the female sex”), while gender is the preferred word when referring to behavioral, cultural, and psychological traits, admittedly typically associated with sex in most cultures (for instance, “young people more likely to challenge the gender norms they grew up with.”)