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>first time in gym
>my very first exercise is bench
>next to me are some zoomers and wiggers
>they snicker and say to themselves "This due looks like he sits behind computer 24/7"
>About to cry
>make up some bullshit like im thirsty and go to toilets so I can pack and leave
>Some dude stops me and say if he can use bench
>It's motherfucking Chad just like from the memes
>say yea
>Asks if I will spot him
>o-okay
>We start to talk he noticed im first timer in the gym
>He teaches me lifts we talk for hour and for this whole hour it feels like im safe and protected
>Mfw this chad says "see you tomorrow okay ? I have leg day and i will teach you deadlifts"
Is this how chads are ? Is this how it feels to die for king? It felt like dram but it was al real.
My king
My liege
WE WILL MAKE IT !
You're right, maybe i came of more standoffish and condescending than intended. Forgive me, I'll try to be a bit more constructive.
The norm for whom? Yes some super extroverted people might do that, but you are you that type of person?
The same circle of friends, volunteering in non profits, hobbies or common interests would be my recommendation. Or do it like anon and start a sport. Basically touching gras, as i said :P Some of my friends tried dating apps, but I'm assuming they are even more superficial than walking up to good looking strangers (haven't tried them myself). Wouldn't recommend work...
Please put yourself in their position. It's really sad how common assholes and creeps are. There is a reason for selfdefense courses for women... Yeah you might not be a creep, but 9/10 are, so how could they tell.
The one thing you seemed to have in common was your lack of empathy for women. I have colleague who is getting stalked and you can really see how scared she is and how it warps her whole way of thinking... This was why i got so annoyed and condescending.
Only if argument for arguments sake is pointless to you. If it wasn't already clear, i love arguing over nonsense. I'll fight anyone who doesn't like pineapple on pizza (:
I have no problem arguing as long as the other person is actually willing to accept that I'm not what I seem.
I do have respect and empathy for women, but I also know that the struggles they deal with aren't going away anytime soon. The type of man that performs sensual harassment acts is not the type of man that's gonna change because people start seeing him as a creep. He generally knows he's a creep and has no intention of changing.
All this excess hostility has simply put non creepy men off to the point of not wanting to try at all because all it takes to be a creep is to look in the wrong direction at the wrong time. And so all women see are the creeps because they're generally the only ones still trying to approach women
Then women say "why aren't men standing up for us!?" and it's because most women treat most men as just predators.
Fuck I've even stopped a sexual assault and had the girl claim I only did it because I wanted to fuck her.
Like she literally couldn't even fathom that I just did it because that shits fuckin wrong. No it was only because pussy.
I know my experiences aren't universal but god fucking damn the amount of times I've been accused of doing something for the sole purpose of getting laid is fuckin unreal when I'm just trying to be a decent fucking person.
No, me asking if you need help, isn't me tryna get into your fuckin pants, you're carrying 80lbs worth of shit and I can clearly see your struggling, stop fucking freaking out just because I offered to help.
My experiences haven't been as bad but I do completely agree.
On another note, nobody can recommend work for finding a significant other because if it goes sour it could effect a lot more than feelings. But if you aren't comfortable approaching women, for whatever reason, work is a great place to build a friendship with someone that could possibly lead to more over time.
It does gross out some women when you tell them every serious relationship you've been in was with someone you worked with, so definitely don't let that slip until they actually know you. I was vibing really well with someone on bumble but as soon as I told her that, everything changed. Lots of "don't shit where you eat" talk. And at one point she implied I was with my manager for reasons other than feelings. She might have just been in a mood but I'm pretty sure I dodged a bullet there.
But that's not everyone, there are so many really amazing women out there. Some of us just have to wade through a lot of shit first. Stop being so angry at people you don't know yet, WORK ON YOURSELF and everything will fall into place. You will find your diamond.