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This is kind of sad, it's hard for people to make friends in the workplace, but for some of them that's the only place they can even try to do it. So be friendly with others...
Boundaries are good and healthy.
No need to be assholish about establishing them though.
the whole idea of the meme and the initial joke in the series is exactly that there's no nice way of setting this boundary, so Jerry just becomes blunt about it and accepting that it makes him look like an ass. that is the joke
I am friendly but there's no spots open in my spare time, so I end up coming off like a hypocrite. work - super friendly, off work - sorry, but nope.
and it's jarring but 3 main friends is already hard to do especially since my family is super super fragmented, I'm an introvert and like slow living too. Just 2 visits a week spread equally to mom, dad (separated), 3 friends, granny, aunt. maths says we'll only meet once a month already. no mate, I think you're great but diluting my visits any further will make me super absent, and visiting more often makes me tired and absent in an even worse way.
It's not your fault, I've had the good fortune of meeting good friends in life and made the effort to keep them around and the friendships have aged well. that and I was cursed with a dramatic family where nobody gets along. so yea, I know it sounds terribly douchy but it's neither of us, there's just no more vacancies.
I'm not gonna tell you all this when we get along at work, because it comes off as aggressive or belittling but what am I supposed to do/say?
The solution to this problem is parties.
The problem with being friendly, is that people keep wanting to push it further and actually become friends. I don't have time for that, I'm full up.
I wonder if there's an overlap between those that relate to this meme and all those complaining how hard it is to make friends as an adult.
I usually make friends at work or am friendly with my coworkers. I understand not wanting to be friendly with annoying or bossy people. However, it doesn't hurt to have a beer every now and again. I keep HR at arm's length though ...