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[–] teuniac_@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I never really understand why people find it so entertaining to make fun of vegetarians and vegans.

Their choice results in less suffering, plain and simple. Maybe you aren't willing to change your diet, that's your decision. But if others are willing to put effort into changing their diets and become vegetarian because it's in line with their values, that's admirable and should be applauded.

Please don't make fun of people who put time and energy into pursuing their values. Not if you don't see yourself as a bully.

[–] lennybird@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I can go into detail on this, actually. It centers around personal insecurity, and a lack of empathy. Let me explain:

Keep in mind I used to eat meat. I've been a vegetarian for well over 10 years now.

So often they joke or sometimes project with, "how do you know someone's a vegetarian/vegan? They'll tell you."

Now I get this can just be a joke, but oftentimes it comes off more passive-aggressive, reeking of insecurity. So entertain some possible reasons why vegetarians / vegans "tell you":

Whose experience has been that bad with vegetarians/vegans, truly? Apart from what's perpetuated and inflated in media and pop-culture. I'm literally surrounded by 97% of meat-eaters. How do I know they're meat-eaters? I can guess because... 97% are meat-eaters. And that's fine. But my sample of meat-eaters mocking what I choose to eat is far larger than the reverse. 3% means you aren't bumping into too many of us. Speaking for myself, most of the moral arguments are fanned by those wondering why I chose to be one and cornered me into revealing I am a vegetarian (usually because the office or my group of friends is getting lunch or something, or I'm offered something I cannot have). Every single time I kindly explain my reasons and make an effort to note, "I don't care what anyone else does, I just want to do my thing and lead by my own example." Yet understand: it was THEY who asked ME. Food and eating with people is just an event that happens frequently. As a result it's bound to happen that someone orders you something you can't eat or attempts to and you explain to them why you cannot. They ask what you brought for lunch and the moment tofu crosses your mouth, cue the questions. Apparently they resent this and store this as ammunition later, and then remember it being you getting on a soapbox telling them what an awful person they are. (That's probably their inner-conscience talking).

So — duh — it's because you asked.

I assure you, speaking as a former meat-eater who was a meat-eater longer than a vegetarian, we receive A LOT more shit than we dish out. Most of us just want to do our thing and not even tell you. I don't particularly like the attention when it's pointed out — as is the case with most of my peers. I don't mind questions, I just want mutual respect for my choices. Thus considering the sheer ratio of encounters between omnivores/carnivores vs. Plant-based diets, combined with the fact that most vegetarians/vegans have at one point been on the other side while the reverse isn't true, I'd say people me know better the perspectives of both positions.

The problem is that diet becomes deeply personal and political for people. When they see someone else do something they don't feel they can do themselves, then they either (a) try to elevate themselves above that person (case-in-point with @straypet below), or (b) try to bring the other person down. This has everything to do with ego and self-esteem.

[–] straypet@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If they mock and put down the ones making better choices, they won't feel as bad about themselves for their own poorer choices.

[–] t_jpeg@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I eat meat and for a while now I've said vegans are simply right.

There's a logical inconsistency with valuing the lives of pets, or being an "animal lover" who still eats meat. People don't want to be confronted with their cognitive dissonance, so they make fun of people brave enough to make changes in their lives because it makes them feel better. I genuinely think everyone knows deep down that vegans are right, so they make up reasons as to why they're "unlikeable."

I'm sure in a century's time when we are able to produce meat without killing animals through biological technologies, people will look back at us as morally depraved.

[–] teuniac_@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm vegan now, previously vegetarian. But before this I was in exactly the same position as you describe. It's the first time that I'm actually hearing of someone who admits there can be an inconsistency between your own behaviour and your values.

Depending on what it is, sticking to your values is hard and requires changing your behaviour and habits. Your environment matters a lot. For me it was easy to switch to a vegetarian diet because my partner loves experimenting with cooking and collecting recipes. For many it won't be this simple.

I used to think it would be easy for people generally to admit that it's pretty unlikely that they're sticking to all of their values, but apparently it's not. I think it's impressive how you're managing not to let personal pride determine your opinion on this!

[–] t_jpeg@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

That's interesting! I might find myself in your position in the future but a combination of factors for me makes being vegan a bit difficult.

Did you phase meat out of your diet gradually or go straight cold turkey?

[–] lennybird@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I appreciate the likely uncomfortable truth you present here. Much respect to you and I generally feel the same. Not everyone is willing to move on now, and that's just the nature of cultural norms. For me personally, I don't particularly care what other people do and just try to lead by example.

[–] t_jpeg@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It is really uncomfortable but also complex. There's so many reasons people still eat meat but you can't really engage with the discussion without acknowledging how expensive/ time consuming following a fulfilling vegan diet that meets all bodily needs is. I think that's a big part of why people won't "move on." Someone else may correct me if I'm wrong because I don't know much on this but I feel like a good vegan diet is so heavily commodified that people can't afford it. The majority of people dom't have a choice as things are, and there aren't many policy changes being put in place to enable ordinary working to lower middle class people to seriously consider a vegan diets.

[–] lennybird@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I do agree it requires significant education. I think it's about what's served to us as a cultural norm and thus habit-ingraining. For instance, my parents will never switch because it's too much effort to teach old dogs new tricks. They grew up around dairy farms and massive lobbyists in the meat & cattle industry shaping the menu of the America diet.

And admittedly, it would've been harder to be vegetarian 20 years ago or more than now, thanks to access to vegetarian options, wider produce options, and restaurant menus accommodating this.

To put in perspective, India and Asia has large populations subsisting on largely vegetarian / vegan diets for dirt-cheap. If for example it weren't the dairy and poultry lobbyists who reigned supreme in America but rather soybean and legume lobbyists, we'd be making the opposite arguments of convenience as we are now. It's sort of the same argument oil lobbyists made in resisting the shift to electric vehicles and rail transit.

I can't fully speak for vegans as I'm not one. I suppose I'm close to an Ovo-vegetarian who avoids dairy when possible but not religiously.

I can say that if you really want to be vegetarian or vegan, it CAN be done as cheaply if not more cheaply than the average middle or lower-class diet. But again it takes more education in nutrition to know exactly what you're looking for. When I first transitioned to vegetarianism, it was a massive learning-curve that took me at least 2-3 years to start getting a sufficient grasp on the dietary needs and adjust accordingly. Most people simply don't know how.

[–] Thrift3499@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I don't agree with that, here's a study from Oxford University confirming vegan diets are on average 33% cheaper than omniverous diets.

It can be expensive going vegan if you eat brand name fake meat every day but everyday vegan staples (chickpeas, lentils, beans etc) cost very little.

[–] lennybird@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Great study. To those who believe that raising own meat, dairy, eggs, hunts, fishes, or traps comes in as "nearly free food," either doesn't place a value on their time, and/or doesn't consider the large costs in investment and learning-curve / training involved. (And if it was that cheap and easy, then it would be reflected in low prices at the market and therefore still be cheaper. Evidently, it is not).

[–] commie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 year ago

you're misreading my comment. I am not calling those methods nearly free (though, for some people, they are.) I'm talking about programs like SNAP or WIC in the USA or food banks or food distribution programs. if someone w literally hands you 5 pounds of pork, and you throw that out, you need to replace that food somehow, probably with money.

[–] commie@lemmy.dbzer0.com -1 points 1 year ago

that study doesn't account for anyone who gets free or directly subsidized food, raises their own meat dairy or eggs, hunts, fishes, or traps. as a result, it excluded the actual conditions of basically every poor person in a developed country. for many people it is much cheaper not to throw away free or nearly free food and go buy vegan food.

[–] lennybird@lemmy.world -1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)
[–] SCB@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's only admirable to be vegan if I agree with veganism, and I don't. It's no more admirable to be vegan than it is to be a scientologist.

The self-righteousness blasted everywhere is why you get made fun of.

[–] teuniac_@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Read this other comment and understand why people mention they are vegetarian or vegan: https://lemmy.world/comment/4652396

It's only admirable to be vegan if I agree with veganism, and I don't.

Veganism is mostly a diet.. not a religion. What does it even mean to say that you disagree with it? If some people feel like they should be vegan and they put effort into it and are willing to give things up, why shouldn't this be admirable?

[–] user1919@lemmy.world -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Chill dude, I am a vegetarian myself. No time and energy is needed to be vegetarian.

[–] commie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 year ago

for some people, it might.

[–] commie@lemmy.dbzer0.com -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Their choice results in less suffering

no, it doesn't.