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Any dads here lonely? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 11 months ago by praxician@sh.itjust.works to c/dadsplain@lemmy.ca

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I have young kids and I feel like I've pretty much become isolated from my friends. The ones that have kids live out of state. My best friends don't have kids so they usually come to me, but they also have their own lives so I don't want to bother them. And I can't really do my hobbies. I knew it would be hard with young kids, but I didn't realize it would be so lonely and without an outlet.

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[–] venonat@sh.itjust.works 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I’ve felt like this before for sure. Best advice I can offer is to try your best to include your kids in your hobbies. Sure if your hobbies were doing drugs or getting blackout drunk at the clubs, then you’ll probably not be able to bring your kids. Though if you like golf/woodworking/video games… something like that, pack up the diapers and bottles or snacks or whatever and bring them with you. Babies sleep proportionately to how much formula they drink and older kids will eat up any menial task you give them to “help”.

Give it a try. It might not be the exact experience you had before, but you may be pleasantly surprised.

[–] Zane@aussie.zone 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Great advice! And sure, if OP's hobbies are base jumping or something else not exactly kid friendly, there's always the opportunity to explore some new interests that the can include the kids in.

Most importantly, including your kids in your hobbies, or finding new ones together is a really rewarding way to strengthen bonds and create long lasting, positive memories for them.

[–] Minarble@aussie.zone 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

What if your hobbies are getting blackout drunk while basejumping?

[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 11 months ago

Won’t be a concern for long.

[–] praxician@sh.itjust.works 4 points 11 months ago

I definitely fully intend to do this (I like washing the cars, which I'm sure they'll love) but right now they're 1 and 2, so it's hard. I'll have to look into hobbies that babies can do too