Off My Chest
RULES:
I am looking for mods!
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Jesus.
Get out now, dude.
Nah, im just being dramatic, venting. She's literally great in every other aspect, financially speaking. We split rent 50/50, buy groceries separately, both contribute equally to a rainy day cash jar, etc. Etc. It's just that all of that responsibility goes out when she gets to a restaraunt booth. I'm not going to tank 6 years over that, just using the community for what its made for
My partner has a friend like this. We take her to a place we like, because it does have good food..
They then makes an endless series of modifications to a dish the place is known for, until it's utterly indistinguishable, and the back of house crew will be very annoyed. Then they complain that the food wasn't good.
Just as the internet was meant to be. I genuinely hope things get better.
That would drive me insane.
I'm glad your girl is otherwise a great partner, but are you worried other things like this might become evident once you've tied the knot?
I think it's time for a very honest conversation and try to get to the root of the issue, in addition to relationship counseling and possibly financial planning.
Or they just agree to go Dutch 🤷🏼♀️ he can just say "I have $30 budgeted for this meal, anything over that needs to come out of your budget"
That's kind of like a bandaid on tissue that's threatening to necrotize. It can be done, but the actual issue needs exploration and excision.
My wife was bad with restaurants, groceries, and utilities before we lived together. I took over rent entirely, and made her responsible for the rest. Shockingly, she started buying less junk food, became more conscious about power and water use, and orders more frugally at restaurants