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Aaarrggghhh, one of the big issues. And there ain't no easy answer. And sooner or later we all end up in this situation.
Step 1 - be aware of what you've done. Tick.
Step 2 - apologise to all that have been impacted by your actions. Identify the harms done and who to. This bit can be brutal to one's self-esteem. Step 3 - rectify the problem where possible. Fix what's broken.
Step 4 - atone - this can get problematical. As atonement may mean a permanent change in behaviour/attitude etc.
Step 5 - forgiveness. This is the really hard one. But if Steps 2, 3 and 4 above have been done in full, on time and within budget, then possible. Particularly of self. Forgiveness from other people is usually easier to obtain. Step 6 - Ongoing awareness of triggers that may lead to a relapse. Also, you only get a limited number of Steps 1-6 before you get written off as incurable and/or irredeemable, so it's worth plugging the triggers into your ongoing awareness.
Optional Step 7 - was it your problem or were you lured into it by another for their own personal reasons? Only ask this after you've run out of repeat scripts.
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