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For me, it helps to pretend that the "me" that made the mistake is my friend. Would I say the things I say to myself, to my friend? No.
I wouldn't say to my friend "you're the worst", "I hate you", "why are you so bad at everything", etc, if they made a mistake or felt bad about something. So why would I treat myself like that?
It takes practice, patience, and self-love and self-kindness. Self-reflection and introspection are difficult, but constant reaffirming is needed to rewire the neuron paths that make us sad. Our brains enjoy a well-used path, and the more it uses those paths the harder it is to break. But you can rewire it, by recognising those thoughts and paths, and consciously saying "i am not bad, I am human and that is okay!"
I'm not always kind to myself, but I'm getting better. Try to learn from what happened, and always try to be kind to yourself. It is okay, it will get better, I am here supporting and rooting for you. ๐๐๐