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Why companies/HR get so pissed when they are rejected by the candidate? shouldn't they be calm like us and not take it personally like they say? (lemm.ee)
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I got rejected a gazillion times in my career and I still get rejected left and right.

However the moment I express my lack of interest advanced in the position, I get bombarded by emails and requests for meeting..

This happened to me twice:

  1. A few years ago. I passed all the stages, the position included relocation, I missed one thing in my negotiation: the taxes in the new place are really high. I emailed them explaining my position, not interested anymore because of taxes.. Then I start getting requests to set up meetings, and attempt to get me to explain to answer a long list of questions.. I tried to be nice and helpful but it seems people lost their temper already (started getting "unprofessional" emails)

  2. More recently, I passed the first few stages, the last stage seemed too frustrating and slow so I gave up. All of the sudden, things changed again and everyone is trying to understand more in detail...

Why are we expected to eat rejections and not take it personally but they can't take their own advice?

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[–] hitmyspot@aussie.zone 8 points 1 week ago

They rejected the other candidates and now have nobody, so they are back at square one. It’s no worse for them as it would be for a person, but they have systematised it and are used to the upper hand. In the case of rejection, they lose their system and the upper hand.