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We do all wear out even our favorite people, occasionally.
I have adapted in a couple ways;
I like to think I tone myself down when appropriate, for them.
But I don't ever let anyone tell me how to be. But I do like express myself in a way that makes my favorite person more comfortabe - particularly when they are feeling drained.
As long as I'm able to be my natural self most of the time, it works for me.
Sometimes even people who adore me need a break from me. I've learned to be okay with that.
A few people I liked have needed a "the rest of our lives" break from me. That's okay, too. Their loss.
Most people want to hang out with me again sooner than that.
Unexpected bonus: I discovered that being comfortable being alone also made me more attractive to other people.
I gave myself space to become a comfortable happy loner. Then I grew into a leader when people started to ask to join in my hobbies or to go to events with me.
I should clarify here that I didn't start a cult, or anything. I started a computer club, and I organize meet-ups to watch movies I like.
that’s awesome that you started a club!! we took a break and he was more affectionate towards me after, he said he was depressed and that I didn’t actually wear him out but he says stuff when he’s in a bad mood and that’s why he hurt me sometimes. he also said “I don’t wanna text you every day and every hour” but then he texted first :) yay!!