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He wanted to help with feeling less attached and needed more space, and we both were feeling mentally down a lot. My attachment + my mood swings.
So it sounds like he might feel like you're leaning on him too much for emotional support. It's not a bad thing to do overall, but when you completely rely on a single person for your mental health, that's a huge burden on that person. I think he just needed some time to escape that.
My suggestion, talk. Ask how it makes him feel, and how you can avoid dumping too much on him in the future. Simply communicating how you each feel will work wonders.
Additionally, individual therapy would certainly benefit you. It's not healthy to be so attached to a person that 24 hours of not talking causes anguish.
Thanks, I was having an episode. I feel much better now and we talked it out, he said the break was for HIM, not because of our relationship.
Glad to hear it! Keep communicating regularly. My partner sometimes anxiety spirals but talking it out and reassuring her I'm not upset (or if I am, why) helps tons.
Thanks!!!