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Yep, and that's difficult. Once you tell them you lose control of the information
Honestly that is an amazing way of putting it. And I think that pretty accurately describes how I feel about the big 'coming out' event. I would like people to know for the sake of my own freedom but also, I kinda like having my own secret world where I don't have to explain or justify anything to anyone.
It's also why whenever this question has come up in the past, I'll usually say that I want to move somewhere new first before making it any more obvious that I'm not just a non-conformist. So that anyone who knows the truth has only ever known the real me without the mask, and I don't have to explain myself to family or people I've barely spoken to in a decade.
That's so true, the more they know the more you need to explain yourself. It's exhausting