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[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 11 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Sounds like a problem for their doctor or a scientist, there isnt anywhere else it would matter about their biological status. So a woman is someone that says they are a woman.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 3 days ago (1 children)

"It's complicated" is probably better for doctors and scientists. The other day I was filling out a "women only" medical form and about half of the questions were relevant to me.

And for a scientist, what exactly are they studying? For social science or psychology I'm an outlier no matter which gender or sex box you put me in; for reproductive stuff I'm closer to male but still somewhat of an outlier (because hormones); for various other medical things I'm closer to female (hormones again); neurologically idk, but there's evidence trans people tend to not match their AGAB here.

But yeah, normal people shouldn't care about any of that when just talking to me.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

i want to hear more about the sex box, please

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago

My driver's license says "Sex: Yes please"

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

trans people who want to update their sex in their passport, birth certificate drivers license etc are wild to me!

...that's an exaggeration; it's a much more complex issue that often involves public safety in ways that don't affect me as a FtNB. If I go into a women's bathroom people mostly just squint at me and if I went into a men's people would probably mostly do the same. And if they did accost me in the ladies' my plan is to show them my vagina then cry and ask how many women with their breasts surgically removed and no hair do they plan to do this to?

but somewhere deep down I can't help but to think gender markers should never have been on government documents to begin with. the government doesn't need to know what genitals I had when I was born or anything about how that may or may not have to do with the life I'm living now. massive governmental overreach if you ask me (and the bathrooms wouldn't be an issue if Americans had real bathroom walls and doors where you can't access others peeing like that anyway.